HOW TO HANDLE “SEE FINISH” IN YOUR MARRIAGE
Bisi Adewale
People do ask me why is it that when people are dating they tend to love each other and enjoy each other’s company, but as soon as they get married things do fall apart and lots of love birds will suddenly become fighting hawks destroying each other.
My answer is simple “See finish.” Yes, “see finish” is the problem. Lots of people do treat dating and courtship as wrapped gifts, they look forward to unreal the gift as they prepare for marriage, they dream, they plan, they envisioned, they pray, they salivate and can’t just wait.
Then came the wedding day, Waoh, colourful, beautiful, what a day, they enjoy themselves and get the knot tied, they can’t just wait for the honeymoon and off they went to honeymoon to enjoy themselves and explore each other sexually legitimately.
Honeymoon is over, work has to resume, they move into their apartment, living together in the same house, same room, sharing the bills and just everything.
The guy began to snore when sleeping, he is also fond of munching food loudly in an irritating way, also scattering the room, and putting his clothes everywhere. So this is how you are brother? The Lady is shocked.
As if that is not enough, he is not as romantic as the girl thinks he is, also sleeps too heavily and ganeshes his teeth as he sleeps.
“How do I cope with this all my life?” The new bride is just getting irritated, this is what is known as “SEE FINISH.”
The guy on his own is secretly battling his own irritations. His beautiful wife is “very dirty” her kitchen is something else, she has no table manners, she spends hours in the bathroom, spends years when dressing up for an outing, talks too much, eats too much and not romantic at all.
Their discoveries about each other (see finish) gradually grew their irritations about each other, leading to complaints, arguments, bickering, many negative emotions, bitterness and constant fighting.
These kinds of issues are common in marriage but many young couples have allowed this to grow to become a stronghold in their marriages. Many of them never recover from this first assault on their marriages.
LET TALK ABOUT THIS….
In the next few days, I will be sharing with you practical ways to deal with “SEE FINISH” in your marriage. But before then, let’s discuss it, we want to hear from you:
WHAT WERE YOUR SHOCKING DISCOVERIES AFTER YOUR WEDDING AND HOW DID YOU HANDLE THEM?
I want us to talk practically about this as a family, and let people learn from you. OYA, let’s talk. Share your experience in the comment area.
