EXPOSED: THE MOST DANGEROUS ENEMY OF MARRIAGE
Bisi Adewale
This exposed enemy is at the root of most unpleasant situations in marriage. In fact, no marriage can be destroyed except at least one person has gotten angry and refuse to forgive. It is a major marriage killer; it has destroyed many lives, companies, families, destinies, etc. We need to know how to deal with anger in marriage.
It is a strange and bitter feeling of displeasure and irritation that makes you to desire to harm, hurt or criticize someone because they have done something you think it is unfair, cruel and offensive to you.
CAUSES OF ANGER IN MARRIAGE
Anger is a secondary emotion; it is caused by the following:
1. Injustice. When you feel your spouse is mistreating you, either it is true or not anger is the kind of feeling that will come over you.
2. Unmet expectation. We all have our expectations which can be reasonable and unreasonable when these expectations are not met, they can lead to anger if they are not handled with wisdom (get a copy of my book titled: Hot and Sizzling Marriage to get to know more about expectations and marriage.
3. Hatred. Absence of love makes it easier to get angry because it is only love that can cover a multitude of sin.
4. Impatience. Lack of patience in marriage will always lead to anger. If we are not patience with your spouse’s weaknesses, mistakes, foolishness, failures, inadequacies, etc we will easily get angry.
5. Strife. Strife is resentment, wisdom and repressed anger. It begins with gossips, backbiting, etc. it does lead to an argument, biking, hatred, etc.
6. Jealousy and envy. When you begin to feel that you are the one that supposes to have what your spouse has; anger is the end result.
7. Negative thinking. When you begin to think negatively about your spouse for any reason it may lead to anger.
8. Infidelity. Sexual unfaithfulness, immoralities will always hurt the offended partner deeply and will lead to anger and hatred.
9. Rumour and negative report. Listening to rumour about one spouse will definitely lead to anger and deep hatred.
10.Pride. One silent cause of anger in marriage is pride, people hardly notice it when pride is working on them, getting them angry on their spouse. When you begin to feel you deserve more respect, your spouse should serve you, your spouse is privileged to have married you, some of the things your spouse is doing or may do will begin to annoy you.
Other causes of anger in marriage are lack of appreciation, sexual denial, abusive words, taking each other for granted, selfishness, poverty, lack of care, lack of support at home with house chores, etc
© Bisi Adewale 2020
