9 THINGS YOU MUST NEVER SAY TO YOUR SPOUSE
Bisi Adewale
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” Ephesians 4:29 KJV
If you must build a better marriage, there are things you must never do or say. This chapter’s focus will be on things that must never be said to your spouse.
- I WISH I NEVER GOT INVOLVED WITH YOU: This is a bad statement from an uncultured mind. No matter what the problem is, settle it. Never speak wrongly to your partner.
- I WISH I MARRIED SOMEONE ELSE: Bringing up a former lover or relationship is the worst thing you can do. Even if it isn’t true, your partner will always believe it.
- SHUT UP: This is rude and crude. Gentlemen and ladies are not known to say this. Are you one of them?
- YOU HAVE TO DO THIS: You should never speak to your partner in an authoritarian manner. Such a manner is reserved for unruly children or pets.
- I WILL DIVORCE YOU: Never use the ‘D’ word. Most of the time, people say this to threaten their spouse even if they don’t mean it. Such a statement can cause damage as it has been planted into your marriage and the heart of your spouse. It will take God’s intervention for such damage to be repaired.
- DON’T TAKE THIS THE WRONG WAY, BUT…: “Complete honesty in relationships can often seriously backfire,” says Julienne Derichs, a licensed marriage counsellor. She also said, “In relationships, intimacy, comfort, and closeness are often confused with ‘unbridled self-expression’, which is where a person lets the flood gates open. Sometimes I hear people say ‘I’m just trying to be open and honest’ in defence of their behaviour. But being open and honest does not mean spouting off thoughts and feelings without consideration of your partner.”
- I HATE YOU: Hate speeches and speakers are detested all over the world. This is one of them.
- YOU ARE AN IDIOT: If this is true, a person who married an idiot must be an idiot too.
- YOU ARE SUCH A FAILURE: “Hearing these words is like branding failure into your soul. You can’t take them back, even if they were uttered in anger and rage. They will linger and become a self-fulfilling prophecy.” says relationship expert, Audrey Hope.
© Bisi Adewale
