7 CHARACTERS THAT BUILD MARRIAGE
Bisi Adewale
Character is marriage, marriage is character. The success or failure of marriage is a function of character. Here are great qualities every man or woman must cultivate.
- Understanding. Living with a man requires a high level of understanding of his make-up. Understanding is born out of a deliberate attempt to know someone better. Refuse to be ignorant like some other woman. Take time to understand why men act the way they do. Seek knowledge daily about your marriage, love, sex, in-laws, crisis management, parenting and financial management. This is an attribute of a woman who is determined to make her home a success.
- Perseverance. Perseverance means continued steady efforts to achieve an aim despite the difficulty. In some cases, some husbands may be heady, difficult to deal with and even maltreat you. Your in-laws may pose a threat to you or there may be a delay in childbirth. However, these challenges should not force you to quit your marriage. Persevere! Don’t surrender your marriage to pressure. You will soon overcome.
- Teachability. Regardless of your age, academic qualification or exposure in life, you must be humble enough to learn from your spouse. Even when you think you know more than him or her; allow yourself to be corrected and don’t be stubborn. Nobody can resist a spouse with a teachable spirit.
- Homeliness. There’s no home until an occupant light it up. To have an excellent marriage, you must be homely. Create the time to be at home. Avoid constant travels, jobs that take your weekends or make you work late. Except in very few cases, men do not like absentee wives. When adequate time is not devoted to the family, intimacy most especially with your husband; is affected. Such a woman stands the risk of losing her husband to any available lady. Do all within your power to get home early. You may lose your job in the process, but you must not lose your marriage. As a wife, your absence in the home leaves members depressed or unhappy. So close early and light up your marriage.
- Friendliness. “A man that hath friends must show himself friendly”. (Proverbs 18:24a). A successful marriage is an offshoot of a deep-seated friendship. Consciously make yourself likeable and lovable. Loosen up your facial muscles and let a smile beautify your face. A welcome look, smiles and good qualities will keep your mate attracted to you. Nobody, let alone your spouse, wants to be with a frowning, stubborn and contentious mate. Be friendly in your speech, actions and reactions. Strange women usually demonstrate a high level of friendliness to lure married men into their traps. For you, demonstrate friendliness to retain your spouse.
- Humility. Let all your actions depict humility because pride will make you repulsive to your spouse. Stoop to your husband if you want him to stick to you forever. Humble and submissive wives don’t get beaten by their husbands. Be humble enough to take correction. Be humble to allow your husband to speak while you listen to him. It takes a humble woman to win the heart of a man.
- Positive Thinking. Positive thinkers don’t get negative results. Entertain positive thoughts about your marriage. Your marriage will not break. Strange women will not push you out. Your marriage will last. Think positively about your mate. Annihilate the thoughts of malice, retaliation or vengeance. Think well of him or her and he or she will treat you well.
© Bisi Adewale 2020
