By Bisi Adewale
Marriage is indeed honourable and it is for honourable people who have the understanding of what it is meant to fulfill. Here are some of the basic kinds of marriage; 4 BASIC KINDS OF MARRIAGE
- BATTLE-FIELD MARRIAGE
“Better is a dry morsel, and quietness therewith, than an house full of sacrifices with strife”. Proverbs 17:1. Many homes are full of battles. They are like boxing rings, they fight dirty. They use their worst weapons against each other; fighting, keeping malice, bickering, hatred, rivalry, bitterness, envy, murderous thoughts, brawls, cold war, hurts, etc. Peace, no joy, no rest, no unity. Many couples in this kind of marriage, sees marriage as a battle field and they go all out to fight their battles without any reservation.
- POOR MARRIAGE 4 BASIC KINDS OF MARRIAGE
These are marriages that are not battle field marriages but are not really enjoyable. They are not best of friends, they don’t see each other as lovers, no playfulness, no deep communication, no bonding, no intimacy, mutual respect is zero, unity is not at home. The only difference between poor and battle-field marriage is that, couples in the battle field marriage see themselves as rivals or even enemies and they seek every opportunity to fight and hurt each other. However, poor marriages have not gotten to that level even though they are not enjoying time together. They no more see each other as lovers, but they do not consider the other party as enemy.
- GOOD MARRIAGE
These are fair marriages. They are by far better than the initial two as they relate better as husband and wife, but not as friends and lovers. Outsiders around good marriage will think it is the best marriage, but the people involved know they can get something better.
- GREAT MARRIAGE
“Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun”. Eccl. 9:9. This is God’s idea of marriage.4 BASIC KINDS OF MARRIAGE
A marriage full of joy, peace and tranquility. A marriage of intimacy, bonding and unity. A marriage of care, service, sacrifice, laughter, playfulness and friendship.4 BASIC KINDS OF MARRIAGE
This is what marriage should be. It is not just good, it is great. The people in it are not pretending to be good to each other, they are. They are really having a nice time, it is a marriage of romance, enjoyment and pleasure. The kind of marriage you are going to have depends on the thinking on which your marriage is instituted. A great marriage is not by accident; it is a result of positive concept.4 BASIC KINDS OF MARRIAGE
Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog: www.bisiadewale.com, Website:www.familybooster.com facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale
