HOW TO HAVE A BLISSFUL MARRIAGE
Bisi Adewale
I want us to carefully study the secrets to a blissful marriage. If you want a blissful marriage, know them, study them and do them. Your result will amaze you:
- HONESTY: Truth is the foundation of trust; trust is the foundation of marriage; marriage is the foundation of the family. So, if you want a better family, be honest, grow in truth, speak the truth always, let your yes be yes, let your no be no. Lies destroy marriage so easily that you won’t know that it ever existed. Be open and truthful. This is a very big and effective key to a blissful marriage.
2.LOVE: But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. Colossians 3:14 NKJV
People enter into marriage through the door of intoxicating love. You don’t need to ask a married person if he or she had ever been in love before. Rather, ask if they are still in love. The problem with affection is that you can’t keep it by watching, you keep it by working on it and making it work.
3.TRUST: Build trust deliberately. When trust is lost in marriage everything is lost. Make your marriage stronger by being trustworthy through truth, openness, closeness, vulnerability and love.
4.SERVICE: Serving each other is a way of growing in marriage. When two servants marry, they master their marriage and make it great. When two masters marry, they make a mess of their marriage. Be servants, not masters. Make your breed a blissful marriage.
5.COMMUNICATION: Give room for deep and effective communication in your marriage. Don’t ever allow the enemy to enter your home by communicating carelessly in your marriage. Talk like friends, partners, lovers blissful marriage will be your reality.
6.FRIENDSHIP: Do everything to grow friendship in your marriage. If you fail to grow in friendship, you cannot grow romantically. Friends talk, play, joke, hang out and do things together. These are things you should be doing in your marriage.
7. FORGIVE EASILY: Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender feelings of mercy, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, long-suffering, forbearing one another and forgiving yourselves, if anyone has a complaint against any. As Christ forgave you, so also you do. Colossian 3:12-13
The closer we are, the higher the tendency to offend one another. For this reason, a good relationship is always a union of two good forgivers. If we interview couples that have been together for a long time, we will discover that they still have their differences. What has kept them together is that they chose to overlook those differences and concentrate on what unites them.
Many just jump into marriage today because they feel they are growing old or in love. This has also contributed to the current high divorce rate. Two people should not just get married because they have feelings for one another; marriage will open their eyes to their differences and the feelings will disappear. Love is not just about accepting the good side, but also the shortcomings and willingness to make sacrifices. One of those sacrifices is an unending need to forgive. If you are not ready to forgive easily, you are not ready for marriage.
8. GRATITUDE: And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which you also are called in one body, and be thankful. Colossians 3:15 NKJV
Be grateful to God and your spouse. It will help your marriage so greatly. Don’t ever see anything as a right; it is a privilege to have them. Be grateful to your spouse always, this will make your marriage better.
9. ROMANCE AND SEX: Many fail to know that sex and romance is an integral part of marriage which must be taken seriously. Most Married couples are not intentional about their sex lives. They allow it to die and let their marriages to suffer for it.
If you desire a blissful marriage, be intentional about romance and sex in your marriage. Give sex a principal role in your marriage. Do it intentionally, romantically, plan for it, look forward to it, do it playfully, jokingly, lovingly and creatively then blissful marriage awaits you.
© Bisi Adewale
