13 KILLERS OF TALKING TIME IN MARRIAGE
Bisi Adewale
Every couple went into marriage through effective communication. Lovebirds talk, gist and even gossip. But after the wedding ceremony, the new couples may find it difficult to talk with each other. Their marriage begins to drift away in the cold which many married couples may never recover from. They find it impossible to ignite their old love. Let’s examine the things that kill communication in marriage:
- BUSYNESS: When partners begin to get busy to the extent that they hardly spend time together, their communication life will be affected.
- CHANGE IN PRIORITY: Dating lovers make themselves a priority. But immediately after saying “Yes, I do”, they begin to shift their priority to other things like jobs, children, friends, etc.
- HATRED: Irritations, hurts, hatred, offences make communication difficult.
- PRIDE: Some people in a marriage are just too proud. They find it difficult to listen to their mate’s views, suggestions and corrections. Communication will never be effective with this kind of attitude.
- MIND READING: Some people are in the habits of reading the minds of their spouses and putting words in their mouths. You hear them saying: “I know what you are thinking”, “It is not what you think”. An attitude like this will hurt communication.
- PREPARED TEXT: Some people have their prepared texts in their minds. They are not even ready to listen to their spouses but to speak their mind.
- WRONG TIMING: Discussion time can also be a killer of marriage. You don’t talk about bills and rent to a man who just arrived home from the office.
- WRONG TONES: The voice you use can be a killjoy
- WRONG PLACES: There are things to say in the bedroom. You dare not say it in the living room.
- WRONG ASSOCIATION: Going out with wrong people will change your belief system and the way you talk.
- DISTANCE: When you are not together, communication will be dealt with negatively.
- SELFISHNESS: Selfish people want things their way, they are always rigid when discussing.
- PARENTING WORK: Attention not given to the children can affect a marriage badly.
© Bisi Adewale
