LOVE TIPS FOR AN IRRESISTIBLE HUSBAND AT A TIME LIKE THIS
Bisi Adewale
A great marriage doesn’t happen just because of the love you had in the beginning, but how well you continue in building love until the end.
True love is an essential ingredient for a great marriage. Love is beyond assumption. It must be real, seen, expressed and demonstrated in numerous ways and through many avenues by a loving husband.
Love is like a seedling when it’s given the right atmosphere to grow, it would blossom.
Many lovers of many years ago have turned out to become haters, wife beaters, cheats, etc, today.
Many started a relationship with a joyful beginning, only to enter and be confronted with bitter discoveries and unimaginable challenges.
Many relationships started with each person in it putting their best foot forward, but withdraw the good in them for certain reasons and unmet expectations later.
SITUATION IN MANY MARRIAGES TODAY
Here below is the x-ray and status of love among many couples:
– Romance is depleted
– Love has been sent packing
– Couples act as cellmates or roommates without special feelings for each other anymore. They are just putting up for the sake of children or church
– No more excitement and demonstration of thoughtful love activities and surprises
– The bedroom is dry and drab.
– Couples don’t have special outings together or take a love stroll.
– Heart for love is waxed cold.
– Love is sick, struggling to grow and crying for survival
WHAT IS THE CAUSE OF THESE STATES OF LOVE IN MARRIAGE?
Let us examine some factors and situations responsible for or contributing to the state of love in many marriages.
Busyness: Couples are too busy looking for means of livelihood and not ready to make out time to invest in building their love affairs.
Lack of Communication: Where there is no communication, there will be frustration. Lack of Communication: Couples don’t talk on things that affect their relationship directly, they just discuss general matters and sweep other important things under the carpet.
Neglect of knowing or speaking the wife’s love language: We have husbands who will fail the test if they are confronted with questions about their wives love language. They simply don’t know. Also, some husbands who may know are not showing it.
Insensitivity to the wife’s plight, groaning and needs of love and attention: So many times, your wife tries to get your attention but you are busy with TV, phone chatting, talking, reading a newspaper, watching football, getting glued to your laptop, etc.
Insensitivity to the wife’s plight, groaning and needs of love and attention: So many times, your wife tries to get your attention but you are busy with TV, phone chatting, talking, reading a newspaper, watching football, getting glued to your laptop, etc.
Irresponsible acts: When a man is not responsible at home, the wife puts off the track of love and anything around it. You can lead or support in any way, financial, domestic etc. You leave the house without carrying your wife along, you are a nightcrawler, womanizer, wayward man and does not care about your home. This attitude of irresponsibility will sniff life out of love.
Lack of commitment and acceptance: When a man is not committed to his family, he complains and shows that he wants his ex back. He also expresses a person(s) to be better than his wife. The women’s emotion will be wrecked and injured in the process and love will be murdered eventually.
Increase in bad characters that are hurting your wife deeply without admitting your weaknesses and excesses; You believe you are always right. You are a dictator and a bad leader. Love wouldn’t thrive in a hostile atmosphere.
HOW TO BRING BACK LOVE INTO YOUR MARRIAGE AS THE MAN
(1) Be a creative lover Boy: Study shows that many men start their relationship with creative love instincts and skills, but lose it just when they get married. You need to get creative and be thoughtful about coordinated love activities to bring back your wife and win her again.
(2) Invest time: To fuel romance in your marriage, you have to invest your time. It requires spending some quality time together with your wife. You can’t be romantic from afar. Go on a date and give her attention. Have a date this season and plan. Take her out and spend precious and quality time together. Let her know how romantic you are. When you return, make love to her without making her feel you want payback for taking her out. Then, ensure she enjoys herself to enable her long for more.
(3) Learn to buy gifts, not about the value but the heart behind it: There are a lot of gift items out there Lay your hand on one and present it to her in a romantic way. Remember, it is not about the quantity or quality of the gift, but the spirit behind the gifting (love).
(4) Concentrate on your wife, contribute to the growth of love in your marriage and avoid distractions. The easiest way to have the best of your wife is to give her 100% of your attention now that we are compelled to STAY AT HOME and be safe with your wife
(5) Accept your spouse while you work out your desired positive changes. Create an atmosphere of love at home, where romance and sex can flow without a struggle. When she is not inviting you for sex, many things are clogging her mind, help out and get the best from your lover girl.
(6) Ask for your wife’s love language because it changes at times due to many factors and women’s general issues. When you know the love language, please speak and demonstrate it. Then continue to confirm and reaffirm that you are on the right track. Open communication channel and make it effective. Some husbands don’t give room for their wives to express themselves.
(7) Be a responsible husband to your wife and father to your children. Ask your wife different ways you need to demonstrate that you are a reasonable husband since it is relative to individuals. Be there at important moments, family outings. Take your spiritual activities and become the head in that area. Encourage your family to move closer to God and be supportive of your children’s upbringing.
© Bisi Adewale 2020
