Marriage

19 WAYS TO PROTECT YOUR WIFE

May 14, 2020

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19 WAYS TO PROTECT YOUR WIFE

Bisi Adewale

Some years ago, I visited my grandpa. He was very glad to see me and he took me into the room, locked the door behind us and asked me to bring down a box, then another and yet another one. He asked me to open the box and he brought out a sealed tin. He opened the tin and he brought out a nylon bag. He opened the nylon bag and he brought out an envelope. He laughed and said his money was there. He opened the envelope and he gave me two fifty naira notes. After giving me the money, he started the process of securing his money. He put the balance in the envelope, put the envelope in the nylon bag, then he put the nylon bag inside the tin, before putting the tin in a box, put the box down and put other boxes on it, the total money he was securing was not up to two thousand naira but they were so important to him and he secured it like a billion naira.

He later told me he lost some amount of money years back and since then, he has been securing his money. He told me, “You have to secure what belongs to you.”

My grandpa secured his money the way he deemed fit, though not the perfect way, but I learnt a lot from his lesson. His central point was, “Protect what belongs to you.”

19 WAYS TO PROTECT YOUR WIFE

MAKE HER KNOW THAT SHE IS NUMBER ONE IN YOUR LIFE: A woman feels secure if you always make her know she is number one in your life. Show her and say it.
BE BIAS COMPLETELY IN HER FAVOUR:Stand with her every day and let everyone know your stand. Don’t let your wife be in doubt about your stand, let her know that you are biased in her favour.
PROTECT HER FROM YOUR FAMILY:Never allow your family to intrude into your family life; they are not to come between both of you. Do not report her to them and do not bring them in to settle disputes between you and her.
PROTECT HER FROM YOUR CHILDREN:Do not allow your children to disrespect or dishonour her. Protect her if your children disrespect her.
AVOID REPORTING YOUR WIFE TO YOUR FAMILY, FRIENDS AND FANS:It is very wrong and childish to report your wife to your family or friends. Grow up, be a man and not a boy.
NO SECRETS:There’s never a good reason to keep a secret from your wife. I’m talking about where the money goes, where you’ve been, and what’s going on in your life, your relationship and family. Honesty is essential.
NO FEMALE FRIENDSHIP:You can be friends with other couples, but it’s a terrible idea for you to have a close relationship with any female whom you discuss everything with. It is unhealthy and will make your wife feel insecure.
NO PORNOGRAPHY:Pornography is cancer that’s ruining the sex lives of countless married couples. Real-life can never measure up to the hyper-sexualized world of pornography, and exposure to it can rob you of the chance for a natural and fulfilling relationship. No woman will feel secure with a man who is hooked on pornography.

Flee from porn, it kills marriages.

LET YOUR WIFE KNOW YOUR CO-WORKERS:Don’t exclude your spouse from that office Christmas party, and if possible, let her have at least, a little familiarity with the secretaries or assistants who work with you daily. Invite her for lunch occasionally.

This will make her feel more comfortable and build trust. Allow her to be familiar with your world and to spot trouble if it arrives.

NEGOTIATE THE FAMILY BUDGET AND THEN STICK TO IT:Decide with your wife how your family income will be used and what your financial goals are. Once those guidelines are set, failing to live within them is dishonest and unfair. If something unusual comes up, talk about it. But be transparent about who’s spending what.
DECIDE TOGETHER ON BOUNDARIES FOR THE CHILDREN:Disagreeing on parenting can be toxic to your marriage and disastrous for your children. Talk about what the rules and expectations for the children should be, and then support your wife by sticking to your joint decision.
BEWARE OF EXTREME TIME-CONSUMING HOBBIES:It’s fine to have individual interests, but if your hobby or passion causes you to spend time with others more than your wife, you might soon feel like you have more in common with those people outside.

Limit the hours spent on separate endeavours each week and find something you enjoy doing together.

BE LOYAL TO YOUR WIFE:Your wife needs to be able to count on you to speak positively about her and defend her if necessary. Avoid friends who love to engage in wife bashing or who find such behaviour as cute. Be ready to fight for your wife and 3 | P a g e

defend her always. Never say anything about her in her absence which you never want her to hear, that is disloyalty.

ATTEND CHURCH WITH HER:A recent study reveals that women feel more comfortable and secure with men that go to church with them than with a man who never loves to serve God.
DON’T ASSUME, ASK:While there are some things you can probably guess your wife will react to, be careful not to assume too much. When in doubt, ask.
BE TRANSPARENT WITH PHONE AND INTERNET:The only reason to have a cell phone or online password that your spouse doesn’t know is if you have something to hide. You should be completely comfortable with having your wife look at your phone, any social media accounts, text messages, or other forms of communication.
BE ACCOUNTABLE:It’s not a sign of a lack of trust for married couples to check in with one another, it’s a sign of the times we live in. If you’re going to be late, call and let your wife know. If you’re going to lunch with a group in the office, shoot your wife a quick text to say so. Finding out about these things later, or being left to wonder about a husband’s whereabouts breeds suspicion and resentment.
TABOO TOPICS:You’re married! That means it’s no longer appropriate to talk about sex around members of the opposite sex (especially as it pertains to you personally), and it’s not okay to flirt, no matter how much you insist that it’s nothing.

Every affair in the history of the world started as ‘nothing’.

BE CAREFUL WITH GUYS NIGHT OUT:If you or your spouse likes to get together with friends on occasion, make sure they’re like-minded friends who won’t drag you into a situation your wife wouldn’t be comfortable with, or that puts your marital integrity at risk.