Rare Truths You Need To Know About Relationships
Having a great relationship starts from knowing the basic truths that will make it work. Most times; these truths are rare and difficult to believe. Thanks to onlinelivingblog who shared this posts :
Rare Truths You Need To Know About Relationships
The first step in having a healthy relationship is always to work on being your best self. This means being honest with yourself, looking at who you are and who you want to be, and dealing with anything that is getting in the way of that. Rare Truths You Need To Know About Relationships
1. Do not expect a prince charming or a queen of hearts
Your expectations actually discourage your partner to a great level. When someone constantly falls short of doing something for you, try and think differently. Maybe it is really you who is being unconditionally over demanding. Hard to hear, I know, but that is the truth sometimes.
Do NOT over-burden your partner with so many expectations that they start failing at everything, even the things they knew they could do or perform for you. Rare Truths You Need To Know About Relationships
2. You can’t force it
We’ve all heard horror stories about girls who get pregnant to keep a guy. They’re sure the guy will love them if they try to force him to stay. But that’s the problem with love: it either happens or it doesn’t. You can’t force it. It’s one of the greatest mysteries in life. Science tries to explain it, but frankly, it’s just one of those things you feel or you don’t. Sometimes it takes time to realize you’re in love. Sometimes it happens in a instant. No matter what, you can’t force someone to love you. Rare Truths You Need To Know About Relationships
3. Not everybody tells the truth
The harsh truth is many of us will compromise on our morals to get what we want. At times, you are not someone’s conscious decision, at times, you are a rebound, at times, you are just a booty call. Be true to yourself, if he loves you he’ll accept you as you are. Nope. Who we are when we’re single isn’t who we are when we’re in a partnership.
“Both of you will have to change things about yourself, and make compromises that will mean you don’t always get to do or have things exactly as you want.” Rare Truths You Need To Know About Relationships
4. Some people will try and ruin your relationship
As hard as it is for you to believe, some people just can’t help but envy your relationship. They just can’t stand something that you have and they don’t. Such people often turn out to be your closest friends. Friends, whom you probably go for advice and pouring-your-heart-out sessions.
Know that you should carefully evaluate every advice you start implementing in your relationship. Remember, no one knows your partner better than you so no one other than you would know the best thing to do for your partner.
5. Love isn’t perfect.
You’re not going to fall in love with the perfect person. Why? They don’t exist. Love is extremely flawed. There are going to be good days and bad days. There will be days when you think you couldn’t possibly tolerate your partner another day. Real love helps you get past the bad times. You look past a person’s flaws and even love some of those flaws. You’re not going to be super, lovey-dovey, romantic movie style happy 24/7. Love isn’t easy or perfect.
6. We try to “fix” the people we care about
The act of sincerely caring for another person is rooted in love and respect. This means listening to them wholeheartedly and letting them know by your complete presence that they are seen, heard, and valued. It’s not a space where you try to fix them – it’s about being a witness to the totality of who they truly are.
7. It’s about more than sex
So many people tie love and sex together. It’s one of the oldest lines for a guy to say, “If you love me, you’ll sleep with me.” Sadly, women still fall for that every day. Sex doesn’t mean someone loves you. It may seem that way, but all it means is they enjoy your body. If you don’t have anything outside of the bedroom, car, kitchen or wherever you prefer to get down and dirty, it’s just lust, not love.
Just because the sex is great doesn’t mean the relationship has merit. That said, we can try and work at it: mainly through our bravery, our willingness to open up and talk it out.
8. We look down on people when we disagree with them.
When someone upsets you, this is often because they aren’t behaving according to your fantasy of how they “should” behave. Take a deep breath. It’s OK to disagree with the opinions of others, but that doesn’t give you the right to deny any sense they might make. Nor does it give you a right to accuse them of poorly expressing their beliefs just because you don’t agree with them. Learn to appreciate different perspectives, lifestyles, and opinions, even if it means overcoming your pride and opening your mind beyond what’s initially comfortable.
9. They don’t love you if they don’t respect you
You can lie all you want to yourself but you know in the heart of your heart that someone who truly loves you will respect you, in front of others as well as when the two of you are alone.
They will respect your life goals, your words, your choices, your body and especially your emotions. Don’t think someone who doesn’t respect you will eventually start doing it.
10. Some people can never learn from their mistakes
Not everyone is as good as others when it comes to learning from mistakes, some people don’t learn at all. Some people actually enjoy the “mistakes” they make and will happily go back and do it again as many times as they can. Be very careful when you give someone second chances, I’ve been there and I got hurt the second time.
It was more painful than the first because. I’m not saying this applies on everyone, but a lot of people I know have gone through the same pain and they all have a lot of regrets for giving someone a second chance.
In short, just be cautious. Even if you are in love, even if you believe in the goodness of the world, there is no harm in being careful and always appreciate when someone does good to you, trust me, there aren’t many people who would do that.
Relationships take work, there is no way around it. A relationship is like a plant; it needs proper, consistent care or it will wither and die. And sometimes it will be really tough. There will be times when you can’t seem to communicate, times when you feel disconnected and angry, times when you start to question everything. These times will become few and far between if you put in the right amount of work. This includes releasing resentments from arguments past, letting go of the need to always be right, and realizing that certain issues won’t ever be resolved and you’re beating a dead horse by trying.
What are the lessons you’ve learned from life? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!
