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101 Questions You Must Ask Before You Get Married

November 8, 2016

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101 Questions You Must Ask Before You Get Married
-Bisi Adewale
Journey to a Great marriage starts long before wedding.
## Success in life starts from asking and answering the right questions.
## There are some questions you need to ask your Husband or Wife to-be before you go into that marriage.101 Questions You Must Ask Before You Get Married
Get answers to these Questions take a firm decision about your life and enjoy your marriage forever.
££ Many that failed in marriage,failed just because they failed to answer these questions,PLEASE DON’T JOIN THE COMMUNITY OF FAILURE.
$$ Divorce Courts are filled up to the brim today,because people simply failed to answer these all important Questions before their weddings. DON’T JOIN THE STATISTICS!!!!!!!!
Ask and answer the question below in the following ways: 101 Questions You Must Ask Before You Get Married
1. Truthfully 2. Down to earth 3. Coherent 4. Complete 5. Correct 6. Result-oriented
All these qualities should be involve in your discussion as you talk your way into a blissful future. Where there is disagreement do not fight about it, but pray, keep on talking until you strike a balance or seek Counsel.

THINGS TO DISCUSS:

1. YOUR SALVATION EXPERIENCE: ask each other: When did you give your life to Christ? What led you to it? How far now? 101 Questions You Must Ask Before You Get Married
2. HOLY SPIRIT BAPTISM: ask each other: When were you baptised in the Holy Ghost? When were you baptised by immersion? Are you sanctified?
3. CHRISTIAN FAITH: What is your believe about Holy Spirit, speaking in tongues, anointing oil, covering of hair in prayer, using of water, candle, using of rosary, falling under the anointing, laying of hands, women leadership in the church, deliverance, prosperity and jewelry. 1 Cor.11:5-10, Jan 5:14.
4. MENTORING: discus about mentors Spiritual, physical, vocational. When and why did you choose the person and what is your relationship with him/her? 1 Cor.11:1, 1 Cor.15:33
5. CHURCH TO ATTEND: Which church to attend after our wedding and why 1 Cor.11:18, Heb.10:25 101 Questions You Must Ask Before You Get Married
6. NUMBER OF CHILDREN: discus number of children you will give birth to and Reasons for the number chosen (agree on this)
7. FAMILY PLANNING: Is it Biblical, what is your own believe about it, if to be used what type? (Gen.1:28).
8. CHILD SPACING: Is it going to be 1yr, 2yrs, 3yrs, etc between two children and why?
9. YOUR HOBBIES: What do you normally love to do and why?
10. POLITICS: Any involvement in politics, which party, why? Can you accommodate somebody from the other party?
11. SPORTING INTEREST: Which sport do you like and to what extent are you involve in it. 101 Questions You Must Ask Before You Get Married
12. SEX: What is your believe about sex? Do you believe in “no sex before marriage?” Are you ready to obey God’s instruction about sex, what about kissing, fondling, necking, etc, what about pregnancy before marriage? Is it biblical? Have you ever had sex before? With whom? Before or after conversion? Heb.13:4, 1 Cor.3:16-17.
13. PAST LIFE: Past sexual life, past relationship, any child before now? James 5:16.
14. HISTORY OF YOUR LIFE: School attended with dates, vocation learned, date of birth, give account of each other from your primary school days till now.
15. YOUR PARENTS: Their names, character, believe,strength,weakness,their position in your life, your involvement with them, their involvement in your academics.
16. INDEBTEDNESS. Mortgages, loan, overdraft.
17. LOCATION: Where to live after wedding. Town, area?
18. TYPE OF HOUSE: One room apartment, self-contain, 2 bedroom flat, 3 bedroom flat, Duplex, etc.
19. FURNISHING. How you want it, type, colour, settings.
20. DRESSING: How to dress, trousers allow for ladies, what did the Bible says about it, type of dress, corporate or traditional or both?
21. HEALING AND HEALTH: Believe in only natural,divine healing or both orthodox and divine. James 5:14-15. 101 Questions You Must Ask Before You Get Married
22. FAMILY COMMITMENT: What level of involvement in extended family, your siblings academics, aged parents care, etc.
23. JOBS,CAREER OR MINISTRY: Which job, how will it affect your home, night shift allowed?
24. YOUR JOY: What normally gives you joy? What can make you sad?
25. YOUR FEAR OR PHOBIA: What did you dead and why? Proverbs 12:19
26. THE BIBLE: Your believe about the Bible, your best Bible book, character, etc. Col.3:16
27. ABORTION: What do you see about it? What did God says about it? Have you ever done it or done it for somebody before? Prov.28:13, 1Jn 3:8
28. YOUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER: Discuss your feelings for each other and how to keep it going.
29. CHILD REARING: Who will be in charge of child discipline? Which school are they going to attend?
30. YOUR HEALTH: Health history, if there is any periodic sickness, terminal disease, family sickness, mental problem, should be discussed. Prov.12:19
31. BOOKS: Books read in the past, the one you are reading, and the one both of you must read before marriage. Proverbs 23:23
32. PRE MARITAL COUNSELING: Where, who, when? (please note that pre-marital counselling is compulsory before wedding, please take it serious) Prov.15:22.
33. TELEVISION: What kind of program or station do you like and why?
33. FOOD: What type of food do you like? Why and how do you want your food (cold, warm, hot, anyhow) when do you normally take breakfast, lunch or supper)
35. CURRENT AFFAIRS: Discuss economy, computer, politics, internet,
36. OPPOSITE SEX: Your relationship with any other opposite sex apart from your partner (friend, boos, course mate, classmate, church member, colleague, subordinate, sister, cousin, etc) should be truthfully discussed.
37. ALCOHOL: What is your view on it? What did the scripture says? Any involvement in it (past and present)? Prov.23:29-33, Prov 31:4-6
38. SPIRITUAL GIFTS: Which one do you have? How have you been using them? 1 Cor. 12:4-12.
39. DRUG AND CIGARETTES: How did you see them? Any involvement in them (Past and present) Prov. 16:7
40. SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES: Name the one you know, have you ever contacted any before, when from who, are you cured, how did you know that you are cured?
41. PETS: Do you have any pets? Do you plan to have any and why?
42. BLOOD GROUP: What is your blood group? How did you know it?
43.GENOTYPE: What is your genotype?
44. PURPOSE: What is your purpose in life? What are you doing about it? What potential do you have? Prov.18:16
45. VISION: What is your vision and what are you doing about it? What do you think you can do better than others. Prov. 29:18
46. MARRIAGE COUNSELLOR: Who is your counsellor or who will counsel us for wedding and marriage? (If you do not have any, contact us in Family Booster Ministry) Prov. 27:17
47. GOAL: What is your goal and how do you plan to achieve them.
48. MINISTRY: Any plan to go into the ministry? When, which church, with whom, why?
49. CHURCH INVOLVEMENT: What is your position in the church. Any commitment, vow or covenant. Acts.20:24
50. FINANCES: How much are you earning? Do you normally pay your tithe in full? Are we going to have a joint account? Any commitment to anybody? Prov.23:5, Phil.2:2, Acts 20:35.
51. FAMILY ALTAR: When are we going to be having it, for how long? Prov.8:17, Jam 5:16
52. FAILURE: Any past failure? (Business, academics, political, sport, finances, etc) your plan to avoid it.
53. SUCESS: Past success, (Business, academics, political, sport, finances, etc) your plan for more of them.
54. WEDDING: When did you want it, (year, month). How did you want it (church, registry, traditional) which church, where is the traditional wedding taken place, ring or Bible or both, English dress or traditional dress, elaborate or quiet wedding, with or without bridal train, with or without reception, what is your church and family policy concerning wedding, best man, chief bride’s maid, reception venue, people to visit, our need for the wedding, and the new home (List them).
55. FAMILY MEMBERS: To be introduced one after the other with the relationship made known, their contribution to your success must be revealed too.
56. PRAYER: When are we going to be meeting for prayer, where, who is going to be leading in the prayer? (in courtship) 1 Thess.5:17, Eccl 4:9
57. BIBLE STORY: When are we going to meeting for Bible study and where? (in courtship) 2 Tim.2:15
58. FASTING: How often are we going to be fasting together? In courtship.
59. MID WEEK SERVICES: Should we attend weekly services? (Note that it is wonderful to do this)
60. CHILD DISCIPLINE: What manner of discipline is okay for Children? Who should discipline them?
61. KITCHEN AFFAIRS: What is the role of a man in the kitchen? How are we going to be buying food stuff? (Genesis 2:18).
62. CUSTOMS AND TRADITIONS: Can i know all i need to know about customs and traditions of your family:
Each person should try to say the custom and tradition of his place.
63. OPPOSITION: Any opposition or likely opposition to our relationship, their reason(s) pray about them. (2Tim 3:12).
64. DISLIKES: What are the things that can put you off
65. LIKES: What are the things you like.
66. WEAKNESSES: What are your weaknesses? Anger, lying, pride, inferiority complex, fornication, masturbation. Gen.1:28
67. VOWS/COVENANTS: Do you have Any vow/covenant with God? Eccl.5:5 or any person,group or persons.
68. PRAYER POINTS: Share your testimonies with each and exchange your prayer request.
69. SUBMISSION AND RESPECT: Lady ask the man: How do you want me to respect you?
How do you define submission in marriage?
70. LOVE: ask each other: What is your love language? What makes you feel loved?

71. PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE: ask each other: to you what is the purpose of Marriage?

72. HUSBAND LEADERSHIP:
Ask each other: what do you see to husband leadership at home and to what extent does it work?
73. WIVES INFLUENCE: How far can wife influence the decision of the husband?

74. TITHING: Do you believe in tithing?

75. OFFERING: Do you believe we should give to God?

76. DIVORCE: What can make you divorce me?

77. WIFE BATTERING: What can make you beat your wife?

78. JOINT ACCOUNT: Do you believes Joint account?

79. VACATION: How do you describe vacation? Where can we go for vacation?

80. BOARDING SCHOOL: will our Children go to day or boarding School?

81. WHO CAN LIVE WITH US: who can live with us-siblings,extended Family?

82. HOUSE MAID: Can we have house maid?

83. PARENTS STAYING WITH US: Can our Parents live with us?

84. FRIENDS AND ASSOCIATION: Who can be our Friends? Who do you hate to see with me?