15 ATTITUDES THAT DESTROY MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIPS
15 ATTITUDES THAT DESTROY MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIPS
By Bisi Adewale
“To conclude: you must all have the same attitude and the same feelings; love one another as brothers and sisters, and be kind and humble with one another.”
??1 Peter? ?3:8? ?
There are many attitudes that can easily destroy any Marriage if they are not changed. You need to know them and deal with them in your life.
1) “I MUST CHANGE YOU” ATTITUDE
Stubbornly going into the “change you” mode by doing everything to change the habits, Character and attitude of one’s spouse, this always leads to trouble in marriage.
2) “LOVE ME THE WAY YOU SEE ME” ATTITUDE: Not being committed to personal change, growth and self development. Insisting that that was how they were created and all they need is acceptance.
3) MASTER-SERVANT ATTITUDE
Behaving as if your spouse is a servant you just bought with your money. Letting him or her do all the house work, without you doing anything to help is a bad attitude.
4) FIRE FOR FIRE ATTITUDE
Readiness to fight to finish on any issue by not giving room to communication, conflict management and settlement. Seeing every disagreement as a war.
5) “I KNOW IT ALL” ATTITUDE
This is the attitude of those who feel they are too wise to be a student of anyone. They are not ready to learn from anyone, their spouses most especially.
6) “MAN MUST REST AND ENJOY” ATTITUDE
This is the attitude of those who love rest, pleasure and relaxation more than anything. They are not diligent but lazy and indolent.
7) “I, ME, MINE AND MYSELF” ATTITUDE
This attitude is in selfish or self-centered people. Everything is all about them, if it does not favor them then it must not be done. It is a very bad attitude
8) “I MARRIED YOU NOT YOUR FAMILY” ATTITUDE
Women with this attitude are fond of making their in-laws suffer. They don’t want to have anything to do with in-laws; they believe they married their husband not their families and family dare not come close.
9) “MY MONEY IS MY BLOOD” ATTITUDE
This is the attitude of stingy people. They see money as their blood that cannot be shared with anybody.
10) “ME AND MY HUSBAND” ATTITUDE
This is the attitude of Women who shield their husbands from friends, family members and the outside world.
11) “I OWN MY LIFE” ATTITUDE
This is the attitude of people who believe they are not accountable to anybody, as their lives belong to them. This is very wrong, nobody is complete in himself.
12) “SMALL YOU BIG ME” ATTITUDE
This is the attitude of proud people that feel they are bigger and better than all other people hence they must be served and worshipped.
13) “BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER” ATTITUDE: This is the attitude that put parents, siblings and family members above spouses. They belief blood is thicker than water hence they should do everything to favour their families to the detriment of their homes. They’ve forgotten that their spouses are not “water” they are their Covenant, so if blood is thicker than water, they should know that Covenant is stronger than blood. So, spouse should come first, that is what the Bible says (Genesis 2:24-25)
14) “I LIVE TO WORK” ATTITUDE: This is the attitude of Workaholics. They have no time for God or their families. All they know is to work and live to die working. It is a very bad attitude that destroy homes
15) “LIFE IS SWEET” ATTITUDE
This is the attitude of people that loves pleasure. They enjoy life to the fullest while their families suffer.
You’ve known many of these bad attitudes. You need to learn to deal with them and kill them before they kill your marriage.
