11 THINGS THAT SHOW YOU ARE IN TROUBLE AND NOT IN LOVE
Bisi Adewale
There are many ladies today who are in trouble but have blinded their eyes with a seeming cloak of love. Unfortunately, some guys are neck-deep in trouble thinking they are in love too. These tips would show you the true picture of your relationship.
11 THINGS THAT SHOW YOU ARE IN TROUBLE AND NOT IN LOVE
1. Your love life is affecting your relationship with the Lord. You love your beloved more than the Lord; you prefer him or her to your creator. You are ready to do anything for your lover irrespective of how it might make God feel. Your prayer life is suffering, reading of the Bible does not appeal to you and your quiet time is dead all because you are in love. That is trouble, not love.
2. Your love life affecting your studies. You can’t concentrate in school, your grades are falling, your academics is badly affected, you prefer being with your beloved than writing your exams. That is trouble, not love.
3. Your love makes you sin regularly. Sexual sins, lies, abortion, stealing is the order of the day. You don’t see anything wrong in stealing your parent or employer’s money to satisfy your lover. You lie regularly just to be with him or her; you have sex and even commit abortion.
This is dangerous to your destiny. It is trouble, not love.
4. Your new love life affects your relationship with your parents, siblings and other family members. You abandon your family, spend a longer time than usual with your lover, or even cohabitate. You hate staying with your people because now he or she is the only one that matters. Never mistake this one for love. This is trouble.
5. You can’t influence your lover; anything he says is final. You are just like a slave to him.
You can’t advise him, correct him, make him change his mind or influence him. This is simply bondage. You should be able to talk freely to anybody that claims to love you.
6. It is all about SEX. Anytime you are together, all you do is to kiss, cuddle, fondle and have sex. This is not love; it is LUST. Sex is not love, love is not sex. If your love life is about sex, this is trouble!
7. It is all about money. She becomes more loving and caring whenever there is money. She makes excessive and outrageous demands and becomes moody if you cannot meet her needs.
I am afraid! You are not her lover but her “banker”. Stop deceiving yourself. This is trouble!
8.He never proposes, but you are going steady. Don’t take him seriously if he fails to speak his mind. No matter how hard he tries to show it, pretend you don’t see it until he says it. You will find yourself to blame later if you go ahead with that relationship without his proposal.
9.He or she does not want anybody to counsel you. Your lover doesn’t want to see your pastor, mentor or leader. He or she hates counselling, hates spiritual authority, and only believes in himself or herself. He or she is too proud and arrogant. This is trouble!
10. It is a secret love. He said you must not tell your friends, parents, pastor or mentor about the relationship. He said the relationship must be between you and him. This is not love; it is ‘canopy ministry’. This is trouble!
11. It is a 24/7 affair. You can’t just let go, you can’t just afford not to see each other daily. You love being together 24/7, just the two of you, for as long as possible saying nothing to each other, doing nothing worthwhile but silly things. This is not love, it is a soul-tie based on sexual attraction. This is trouble!
© Bisi Adewale 2020
