Marriage

HOW TO WIN YOUR SPOUSE LOVE THROUGH APPRECIATION

March 30, 2020

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HOW TO WIN YOUR SPOUSE LOVE THROUGH APPRECIATION

Bisi Adewale

Appreciation is being able to recognize and enjoy rightly the value of a good act. Also, it is a commendation to praise or speak favourably of the good deed done by another person.

In marriage, positive actions or efforts should be recognized, it adds flavour to the marriage and turns it around for better.

WHAT TO APPRECIATE IN YOUR SPOUSE

Spiritual qualities of your spouse
Payment of bills by your spouse
Household allowance
Gifts
Physical characteristics- size, height, shape, size, colour etc.
Dressing
New Hair do
Success and promotion
Breastfeeding of a child
Cleaning of the house
Sexual relationship
Care of children
Sexual relationship
Any good deed
New purchases
Support/help/assistance
Good food
Good leadership
Love
Submission
Good relationship

WHO SHOULD BE APPRECIATED

1) Wife

2) Husband

3) Children

4) Guest

5) Housemaid

6) In-law

What Appreciation will do for your marriage

It builds acceptance
It helps your spouse to believe in him or herself
It sparks up positive reactions
It makes the person that receives it to want to do more
It enhances love
It generates love, joy, peace and happiness
It makes the recipient feel loved
It encourages forgiveness
It breeds unity and oneness
It stops bitterness
It meets the major needs of your spouse

HOW TO WIN YOUR SPOUSE LOVE THROUGH APPRECIATION

See anything done to you by your spouse as a favour
Make up your mind to improve your marriage
Decide to make your spouse happy
Forgive every wrong you can think of against your spouse
Never think you can do it better be humble to do more
Deal with pride, hatred, malice, anger, bitterness and resentment
Ask God for the spirit that appreciates
Never compare your spouse with anybody
Focus in the good deed of your spouse. Stop exaggerating his/her faults
Never see anything done for you as your spouse duty, see it as a favour
Never expect your partner to be perfect, you are not either
Accept your partner for who he or she is
Never forget special days like his or her birthdays, wedding anniversary etc.
Have a long memory of good deeds done to you and short memories of offences
Always think positively of your spouse
Make ‘well done’ ‘thank you’ ‘you are looking good’ ‘good talk’ your daily statement to your spouse. Avoid abusive word and cutting remarks, whatever you say your spouse is, is what you are.
Always pray for your spouse
Remember- if you fail to notice and appreciate the good done then you have no right to criticize when it not done at all.