Understanding Respect In Marriage
The number one thing a man want in marriage is not sex but respect. No matter your qualification, beauty, how fluent your spoken English is, without honoring your husband by referencing and respecting him you will soon loose value in his sight.
“Better to dwell in a corner of a house top, than with a brawling woman in a wide home” (Prov. 21:9).
“Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord
Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. (Ephesians 5:19-22).
Mutual respect is a very strong pillar in the school of marital success. Many women respect and honour their husbands but men, on the other hands, are fond of disrespecting and disregarding their wives.
Recently, a couple came to our office for counselling, as the wife was about talking, the husband said; “Shut up! What do you know? You ordinary grade two teacher. Did I not bring you from your village to the limelight of Lagos? When responsible and knowledgeable people are talking, please close your dirty mouth”. Can you imagine that insult?.
In another case, a man was in a social gathering when his wife came to joined him putting on dark glasses. He went straight to her in the presence of everybody and said “woman, always use your sense whenever you are dressing and stop putting on glasses that make you look like a blind woman”. The wife was so shocked and embarrassed that she looked like somebody whose garment has been removed in the market place.
Respect is needed from both husband and wife. Its absence affects marriage from the root because it removes restraints and allows familiarity that breeds insult and contempt.
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