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THINGS TO DO WHEN YOUR PARENTS REJECT YOUR INTENDING SPOUSE

April 16, 2020

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THINGS TO DO WHEN YOUR PARENTS REJECT YOUR INTENDING SPOUSE

Bisi Adewale

The roles parents play cannot be overemphasized which is why God demands that we respect them. This is one good reason they must approve of your partner before the wedding. Getting married without a parental blessing is anti-scripture.

Generally, young people who get married without their parent’s blessing end up in regret. Wisdom is therefore essential if your parent objects to your choice of a life partner.

If your parents reject your choice of a life-partner, please do the following:

Check yourself :It is unreasonable for you to jump to the conclusion that your parents are wicked to have rejected your beloved. There is absolutely no reason for you to believe your parents hate you at this stage because they were bold enough to express their opinions. Even if you are certain they never loved you and this action adds up to it, as a child of God, you must keep your cool. Check yourself, your relationship, your convictions and your parent’s reasons for the rejection. Their action may be a wake-up call from the Lord or a signal that all is not well.
Be patient.:When things don’t go your way, wait. Don’t make any rash decision; don’t elope, and be doomed to a marriage of disobedience. Rather, wait to see what the Lord is trying to tell you.
Pray: Be prayerful; commit your parent’s decision, your actions, the situation, etc into the hands of the Lord. Then ask Him to give you the wisdom to handle the situation.

Counsel: Go for counsel, talk to a qualified marriage counsellor or pastor. This is not the time to table it before your friends who are members of your supporters’ club. They will only see things the way you see it.
Be persistent : If you are convinced that you are doing the right thing, then be persistent. Your parents may change their minds when they see how mature you are going about it.
Apply wisdom :Be wise, don’t pass the blame. Don’t do things you will regret in future. Don’t conspire with your beloved to abuse your parents. Be wise.
Open communication channel : Talk deeply with your parents. Communicate effectively with them. Let them know your mind and reasons for your choice.
Diplomacy: Be diplomatic in the way you handle your parents. Don’t ever forget that God commanded you to respect them. Instead of fighting them, look for their trusted friends, pastors, neighbours or family members who can put in a good word for you.