Marriage

STRESS MANAGEMENT IN MARRIAGE

March 19, 2020

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STRESS MANAGEMENT IN MARRIAGE

Bisi Adewale

I called upon the Lord in distress: the Lord answered me and set me in a large place. Psalm 118:5 KJV

Every couple goes through ups and downs in their relationship the way they manage is what differs from another.

This will determine how enjoyable their marriage will be if they allow the stress of life to snowball into conflict in their marriage, they will have themselves to blame for this. Managing stress rightly is a very good way to make your marriage stronger and better.

SOURCES OF STRESS IN MARRIAGE

Stress can come from any angle to confront any family at any time, every couple should know the likely source of stress and how to handle them when it appears.

let’s check areas where stress can occur:

~ health issues

~ Child care

~ Parenting

~ Job demand

~ Bereavement

~ bad economy

~ Financial troubles

~ Court cases

~ Problems at work

~ Difficult Children

~ Infidelity

~ Third-party influence

~ Ignorance

~ Transfer at work

~ loss of Job

~ Midlife crises

~ Menopause

~ Sexual incompatibility

~ Demonic Affliction

~ Lack of work-life balance

~ In-laws challenges

~ Childlessness

~ Conflict in Marriage

~ regular strain of everyday life.

~ Pregnancy

~ Newborn baby

~ Resumption at work after Maternity leave

~ Difficult Husband

~ Stubborn wife

~ Poverty

~ Bad attitude

Etc

HOW TO HANDLE STRESS IN YOUR MARRIAGE

Here are some suggestions gathered from counselling experiences, I believe they will help you

1) TAKE YOUR TROUBLES TO GOD IN PRAYER: As a Christian, you are privilege to have a father that always listens and is all capable to hears you,so talk to him.

He is always present.

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.

Psalm 46:1

2) PLAN AHEAD: Finish work assignments ahead of time so you’re not rushing to finish them during your busy schedule.

Make extra portions for dinner and freeze them for ready-made meals.

3) BE IN THE SAME TEAM: No matter what you are fighting on,no matter what is fighting you, be on the same team, walk and work as lovers not rivers, companions not a combatant. Don’t bite each other, bite your problems.

4) USE EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION: Let your communication be very effective and deep, don’t hide your feelings from each other, talk deeply talk lovingly be free to discuss anything with your spouse. Talk and talk. Talk TO each other don’t talk AT each other, there is power in Discussing your issues together in love, you can’t win by fighting but you can by talking.

5) LAUGH ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS: You will do well to yourself, spouse and even your marriage if you laugh and enjoy the moment no matter what happens, you may not be in control of what happens but you can be in control of your emotion.

6) SHOW TOLERANCE FOR EACH OTHER’S REACTIONS: Not everyone reacts to stress in the same way, and no one way is right or wrong. Just realize that your spouse is different and help each other to overcome.

7) MOVE ON: Don’t allow you or your partner to dwell on past mistakes and errors, instead, dwell on the future you want to build together.

8) DONT BLAME, DONT JUDGE: A football coach BLAME does not win GAMES. Avoid blaming and judging each other. When blaming and judging begins, listening will cease to exist.

9) FOCUS ON STRENGTH: Focus on the strengths in your marriage and build on these strengths, rather than dwelling on the weakness or the negative aspects of your marital life.

10) BURY THE DEAD: Don’t bring up old hurts in the marriage; this will only make matters worse. Focus on the present issue, what you are fighting is big enough as an opponent, don’t help to make it worse and difficult.

God bless you!