POSITIVE WAYS TO QUARREL IN MARRIAGE
POSITIVE WAYS TO QUARREL IN MARRIAGE
The best for your marriage is not to quarrel at all. But if you must quarrel, you must learn to fight fairly,please bear the following in mind:
1. No physical combat; leave that to garage boys.
2. No foul language.
3. No threat of divorce or separation.
4. No condemnation, criticism or comparison of your spouse with other people.
5. Avoid making reference to previous quarrels.
6. Speak the truth in love without shouting.
7. Do not reveal the secrets of your spouse to outsiders.
8. No silence treatment. Keep on talking in love to your partner until you can resolve the issue.
9. Self-blame system. Avoid blaming your spouse.Rather, note where you are wrong; do not be blind to your error. No self-righteousness because it takes two to tango. Accept your mistakes humbly.
10. Apologize generously to your spouse.
11. Break the ice of malice.
12. Think positively about your spouse and marriage; no thought of divorce or separation.
13. Forgive when you are hurt.
14. Use auto suggestion system. Speak positively to yourself about your spouse. You can say something like this: “David (call your name), why do you fight your wife? You have nothing to gain. Why can’t you stop quarreling and give peace a chance and let the Holy Spirit take control in this house?” Repeating positive statements like this will release your heart from anger and bitterness and give room for easy reconciliation.
MARRIAGE: POSITIVE WAYS TO QUARREL IN MARRIAGE
Bisi adewale is an International Conference Speaker on Relationship Marriage, Parenting and Family Life,He is the author of the best selling books: Secrets of an Irresistible Wife, Hot and sizzling marriage,32 ways to know truelove,Parenting Teenagers and more than 70 other best selling books on marriage and family life. He is the president of Family Booster Ministries International and College of Marital Success (CMS), Host of Family Booster Moments on TV, watched in many countries across the globe.
