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16 THINGS TO CHANGE IN YOUR BELIEF ABOUT MARRIAGE

March 16, 2020

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16 THINGS TO CHANGE IN YOUR BELIEF ABOUT MARRIAGE

By Bisi Adewale

To succeed or fail in marriage is a function of your mind. A successful marriage doesn’t start from the altar, it begins in the mind. Are you aspiring to succeed in marriage? if yes, then you will need to change the following mindset before you say “I do”.

Marriage is necessarily evil. What you programme into your mind is what you will download in marriage. though, many people believed that marriage is necessarily evil that is why majority were experiencing evil in their marriage but be part of the few who enjoy good and favour in their own marriage by thinking right that marriage is necessarily good.
Cohabitation is not bad. Cohabitation is living together with your fiancé /fiancée in the same room when you are yet to marry. This is very wrong as a Christian. Most of the time, this lead to a delayed wedding and broken relationships as the guy has enjoyed the “food” he didn’t pay for. Don’t move into his house if he has not married you legally. If you do, you are committing fornication.
Trial marriage is good. Just like cohabitation, it’s living together of two engaged singles with the mind to test if they can live together in love and harmony. Their belief is that if they can live together without misunderstanding or rancour, then they can get married as husbands and wives but if not, then they will break the relationship since it’s just a trial. Please don’t engage in this evil act. Marriage is not by trial, it is a lifetime commitment. To know the fellow very well before the wedding, take time to court for at least 6months-2years.
Marriage is punishment for men. “He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favour from the Lord”. Proverbs 18:22. Marriage was not instituted to be a punishment for men. Those who are experiencing punishment in their own marriage have missed it somewhere and they need to sit down and find out where they got it wrong. Your own case is different; marriage to you is a blessing and favour from the Lord.
Marriage is slavery for women. Marriage is not a prison yard, so it cannot imprison a woman. Those who run the Women Liberation Movement were set of women who cannot submit to their husbands, career women who cannot live with their husbands due to the fact that they are rulers at the workplace and they also want to rule their husband and their family which is wrong. As you are preparing for marriage, make up your mind to be a submissive wife and you will become the number one influence in the life of your husband.
Marriage is for child making. Marriage is not just a baby factory, it is beyond that. It is for companionship, love, unity, friendship, preservation of destinies, among others. Though child making is one of the purposes but it is not exclusively meant for that.
It’s wrong to reveal secrets to your wife. ‘’ And they were both naked and not ashamed” Genesis 2:25. I want you to go into marriage with the fact that you and your spouse were one single entity. If you know that you are, you will not hide anything from your wife. Your spouse should be your confidant, you can hide your secrets from others but not from your wife. Your wife is you in a female gender. Share your pain, fears, success and failure together.
Women are necessary evils. Although, there are lots of women who were thorns in the flesh of their husbands but a virtuous woman is none of them. Your own wife is a virtuous woman who will be a plus and not a curse in your life. She will do you good all the days of your life.