5 SECRETS THAT MAKE MARRIAGE WORK
Bisi Adewale
Marriage is a relationship, it takes some relationships to make it work
1. Relationship with God.
If thou wert pure and upright; surely now he would awake for thee, and make the habitation of thy righteousness prosperous. Though thy beginning was small, yet thy latter end should greatly increase. (Job 8:6, 7 KJV)
Have a good relationship with God. If you don’t connect with God you may never connect with your spouse.
- Love God. – if you don’t love God you may never know how to love your spouse
- Serve God- personally and together as a couple
- Be intimate with him.
- Let there be a family altar.
- Give room for the praise of God in your house
2. Your Personal Relationship.
- Your character: build a better character, develop better habits.
- Your thinking. Think positively about your spouse, think of what to do to make him or her life better with you.
- Your beliefs: believe only what the bible says about marriage.
- Your health. Never neglect your health, service your body, don’t wait for sickness before you attend to your health, eat right, exercise, rest.
- Your self-esteem: believe what God can do through you, believe in God, yourself and your spouse.
3. Your Social Relationship
Be thou diligent to know the state of thy flocks, and look well to thy herds. And thou shalt have goats’ milk enough for thy food, for the food of thy household, and for the maintenance for thy maidens. (Proverbs 27:23, 27 KJV)
- Your Job, career, ministry: be the best in your career but never surrender your marriage to it. The career will end while your marriage will forever remain, be wise to strike a balance now
- Social Media: they are to help you build a better family not to destroy it.
Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages. Let us get up early to the vineyards; let us see if the vine flourish, whether the tender grape appears, and the pomegranates bud forth: there will I give thee my loves. (Song of Solomon 7:11, 12 KJV)
4. Relationship with others:
Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. (Proverbs 27:17)
- Your family. Handle your family with care don’t love them more than your spouse, don’t surrender your marriage to them.
- In-laws: love your in-laws even if you feel they don’t love you, pray for wisdom to handle them rightly.
- Children : pray for them,love them,teach, admonish,train,correct.
- Friends: they must not be closer to you than your spouse
- Neighbours: love them, but be careful with them
- Housemaids: get them only if it is necessary
5. Relationship with your spouse.
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. The poor useth intreaties; but the rich answereth roughly. A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:22-24 KJV)
- Acceptance: your spouse can never be like anybody else, accept him or her
- Love: say it, show it and act your love.
- Care: care is the language of love.
- Forgiveness: be a generous forgiver
- Communication: talk the talk to walk the walk.
- Praying together.
- Patience: don’t be in haste to see your partner change, be patience with each other, adjustment in marriage is a gradual process.
- Romance: marriage should be romantic and enjoyable.
© Bisi Adewale 2020
