Marriage

9 WAYS TO TOLERANCE IN MARRIAGE

March 31, 2020

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9 WAYS TO TOLERANCE IN MARRIAGE

Bisi Adewale

Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness (Colossians 3:12-14 KJV).

When one thinks of marriage, tolerance is not the first thing that comes to mind. Yet, it is one of the major things that will sustain a marriage. Love, romance, sex, compatibility, attention, appreciation, admiration and respect are all important factors as well, but each is fleeting and subject to drastic changes over time.

Many things must be in place if there will be tolerance in your marriage.

HUMOUR: Some things are trivial; laugh together about them, instead of holding each other’s head (Psalm 126:2).

POSITIVE THINKING:Always think positively about your spouse’s actions and reactions. It will help you a lot.

He stays late in the night, think: maybe he is caught in the traffic.

He didn’t pick your calls, think: “maybe he is very busy”.

He didn’t call back, think: “maybe he has not checked his phone”.

Don’t kill yourself thinking negatively (Proverbs 4:23).

PATIENCE:Learn to be patient and overlook some things. Many things do not matter after all (Hebrew 10:36).
PRAYER: Pray about those things that irritate you. You may even be the one God needs to touch after all. Ask for the spirit of tolerance (Mathew 7:7).
RESPECT: if you have the utmost respect for your spouse, it will be easy for you to tolerate each other (Ephesian 5:33).
EFFECTIVECOMMUNICATION: Talking deeply, frankly and effectively do encourage tolerance in marriage (Ephesian 5:19).
UNDERSTANDING:Getting to know your spouse deeply and understanding why he does whatever he does will help you to tolerate his or her weaknesses.
DEFINE TRIVIAL RIGHTLY: Know what is important and what is not, know what is trivial. Your spouse did not flush the toilet; flush it. It takes two minutes; that is trivial. Don’t fight about it. Many of the things people fight about in marriage are trivial which can lead to a bigger problem if they are handled foolishly.
TEAM THINKING: Know that your spouse is your team member. Good team “work” together. They don’t ”war” together. Make it teamwork, not a team war.