I regularly talk to the guys over on The Generous Husband about anger, but it’s not just a male problem in marriages; some women have anger issues too. How to Live Above Anger
Men usually use anger as a way to hide from thoughts and feelings they don’t want to admit they have. Being angry feels powerful, whereas feeling sad, used, or manipulated feels weak. Women use anger the same way, but I think women are more likely to intentionally use anger as a club. It’s a way to get what they want. It could be getting him to do what she wants, or it could be about being left alone for a while. How to Live Above Anger
The problem men have with an angry wife is there’s no good response. If he meets anger with anger and it escalates he worries he will hurt her – emotionally if not physically. If she won’t be reasoned with, it seems his only options are acquiescing and withdrawing. While these may give his wife what she wants in the moment, it’s not giving either of them the marriage they want or need.How to Live Above Anger
I’m not going to tell you anger is wrong, nor will I tell you that your anger is unjustified. But I can tell you letting your anger run wild is very bad for you, for your husband, and for your marriage. And if you have kids at home it’s hurting them and their future marriages.
Be honest with yourself – are you expressing too much anger? If so, how do you change? How can you better express yourself?
And finally, PMS doesn’t give you a pass. I’ve told men PMS is a real thing, and I’ve called for them to extend grace when their wife is struggling with it. But PMS doesn’t excuse bad behaviour and it doesn’t bypass the need for repentance and seeking forgiveness when appropriate. How to Live Above Anger
~ Paul – I’m XY, and I don’t know what I’d do if my wife full out screamed at me. How to Live Above Anger How to Live Above Anger
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