WHAT TO DO AT THE CROSSROAD OF A RELATIONSHIP
By Bisi Adewale
What do you do when you are not so sure about continuing a relationship?
- Do not just break your partner’s heart even when you are fully persuaded that you made a wrong choice.
- Inform a marriage counsellor and your pastor about your new disposition.
Prayerfully share your conviction with your partner in genuine love and sincere acceptance of the mistake after proper counselling.
- Determine to separate in love and full forgiveness.
- Speak the truth in love.
- Never nurse any grudge.
- Avoid bitterness after disengagement.
- If there is any bitterness in your heart towards the person, do the following:
- Ask God to forgive you
- Confess that you have forgiven the person.
- Pray for the person for at least ten minutes in three days, morning and evening.
- Avoid writing letters, e-mails or calling to break off on phone. It is better to see face to face and avoid being misquoted.
- Be very sure you are doing the right thing before you break that relationship.
- Please, let the spirit of God lead you.
- As a sister, avoid going to the house of a brother to break a relationship. Many ladies have been beaten, molested or raped in the process.
- Do not announce your disengagement in a secret place where there will be nobody to protect you if he gets annoyed or bent on mishandling you.
“A courtship that endangers peace can not lead to a restful marriage”
© Bisi Adewale 2020
