IN-LAWS AND THEIR CHILDREN’S MARRIAGE

IN-LAWS AND THEIR CHILDREN’S MARRIAGE

Bisi Adewale

In this part of the world, in-laws do have a great influence on young families. Management of couples/in-laws relationship may spell doom for a new marriage and may create difficult problem which may eventually destroy the home 

FACTS

        Research has shown the following:

1. In-law friction has feminine pattern
2. Men are less conflicting
3. Brother or sister in-law may be the cause of the problem
4. Some problems were caused by the husbands themselves.
5. Most wives often think in-laws are problematic
6. Husband’s families are often the one creating problems not always the wives’ family.
7. In-laws has led to the destruction of many families
8. Where couples are united, in-laws cannot destroy their homes
9. Wives can be the cause of their in-laws problem
10. Some mothers-in-law are ignorant, bossy etc thereby creating problem at home.

CAUSES OF IN-LAW PROBLEMS

1. Ignorance- lack of knowledge by the wife, husband or in-laws may create great problem in marriage.
2. 2.Culture– some culture sees women as slaves and servant of their in-laws, this can create another problem at home.
3. 3.Barrenness– childlessness or inability of a woman to have a male child.
4. Envy– some mothers –in-law does not enjoy what their sons’ wives are enjoying. This makes some of them to be envious and this may lead to a bitter rivalry between wives and their mothers in- law.
5. 5.Fear– some mothers-in-law fear that their daughters-in-law would divert the attention of their son from them and that he would not be in a position to cater for them again, hence they make sure they create a lot of problems for the wife so that her husband may not love her.
6. 6.Bad character– some wives and mothers-in law are having bad character, this do lead to a bad relationship between them.
7. Excessive love of mother to her son.
8. Absence of leaving a cleaving.
9. Hatred
10. “Me and my husband” attitude of some wives.
11. Parental dominance
12. Soul tie between mother’s- in-law and their son.
13. Immaturity on the part of parent, husband and the wife
14. Husband or wife’s position in his/her position in /hi family.
15. Too much attachment to one’s parent.

© Bisi Adewale 2020