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Ingredients Of A Good Proposal For Marriage

September 18, 2016

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As a child of God, you can not marry just anybody. There are things you must consider before accepting any proposal. Listed below are the constituents of a godly proposal you can consider for acceptance or rejection.

GODLY PROPOSAL

Counsel and conviction are necessary.
Inform your pastor after you might have prayed through.
The pastor could call you together or allow the brother to go ahead with the proposal.
Only brothers should propose (Prov. 18:22).
When proposing, the brother should be direct, polite, resolute but simple.
No use of proverb, adage and so on during proposal.
Avoid saying ‘thus saith the Lord’.
Never intimidate or terrify the sister.
Do not share your vision, dreams, prophecy and so on with her.
Do not rush her into giving her consent; give her enough time to confirm.
Avoid constant visits after proposal and do not give the sister any gifts. Let her take an independent decision.
Leave room for refusal but do not give up if you are sure.
Never make a lady who rejects your proposal an enemy.

HOW TO HANDLE PROPOSAL

Never throw away a proposal without finding from the heavenly father. Don’t be snobbish.
Do not fail to pray seriously about it.
Do not bother to pray about proposal from an unbeliever, divorcee and married men. It is not the will of God (Joshua 23:11-13, Malachi 2:14-16).
Go for counsel.
Check love and character.
Do not target financial gain.
Do not delay giving the brother an answer as soon as you have it.

With these ingredients in view, you will be able to make right choice and know which proposal to accept and which you must not accept

Ingredients Of A Good Proposal For Marriage