Help! My one night stand with my boss is about to ruine my marriage. what should I do?
Help! My one night stand with my boss is about to ruine my marriage. what should I do?
My name is Ronke and I have been married for eight years but that blissful marriage is about going up in the flame due to one night of reckless passion that saw my boss have sex with me.
I work as a personal assistant to a shipping magnate and while the salary is good and an additional income to the family, what I am going through now cannot be compared to the comfort of my home but I am in a deep mess because after my boss took advantage of me, he now has an ace over me and I cannot walk away without repercussion.
For the four years I have worked in the company, my randy boss had been on my neck for a relationship which I always stave off but when it happened, he took my quite by surprise. We had gone on a conference in Lagos, something that was quite normal as his personal assistant. After the conference, which was very successful and quite rewarding for the company, my boss invited me out for dinner with his business partners and we had a few more drinks that was normal for me.
When we got to my hotel room, he asked me to come to his room so that we could plan our itinerary for the following day and while there, I must have passed out due to the drinks I had only to wake to find my boss on me. I tried to push him off but I was so weak.
After that day which I wish had not happen, my boss has continued to blackmail me sexually and anytime I told him I wanted an end to it, he blows his top and has vowed to leak the secret of that night.
I cannot bring myself to tell my husband because he would be crushed. I cannot also leave the job for fear of what my boss would do.
I am at a cross roads and needs advice from you and your readers.
Ronke,
Port Harcourt.”
Tell your husband the truth, apologise and ask for forgiveness both from your husband and your God, then leave the job immediately. God will definitely make a way for you and touch your husband to forgive you….you will be a more of fool to continue to sleep with your boss.
The fear of losing the job is the problem of that Woman not the threat from her Boss.
She doesn’t want to come down from the level life she is living, that is why she suffering from mental torture.
Unnecessary competition in life is the problem of most Nigerians
The Bible says ” And ye shall know the truth and it shall set you free”
She must have known the truth but suddenly she fall into the temptation ” by taken some liquor ”
What she didn’t know is that drinking and casual sex go together.
At this point, for her to be free she has to resign the job.
Fasting and prayers
Confession to the husband.
Without the above suggestions she will continue to be a slave to sin of greed and adultery.
my dear you av to quit dt job, he’s only threatening You because he knows you’re scared. doesn’t he have a family too? He should leak it and face the consequences, you can also seu him for sexual assaults because it wasn’t consensual. Be smart about it and don’t let this man ruin your marriage.
Don’t be afraid of your boss but ask God for forgiveness,pray that God should give your husband the spirit of forgiveness to forgive you and go to your husband confess to him and and ask him to forgive you.Quit that your job and never fall into adultery. Be faithful to your husband and let God take perfect control of your life and your marriage.
I pray that God will take perfect control of your marriage and give your husband the spirit of forgiveness to forgive you totally. Amen!
I have a totally different perspective to this issue, I think it is time to turn the tables. This happened not because you wanted it, it was a mistake. If you tell your husband, he will never recover and the marriage will be gone but the wedding may not….. This will leave you in pain forever. As for your Boss, It is time to tell him not to take you for granted and leave you alone peacefully before the shit hits the fan. Do not leave your job, except you have secured another one already.
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