Marriage

WHAT TO MANAGE WELL IN MARRIAGE – Part 1

October 23, 2016

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WHAT TO MANAGE WELL IN MARRIAGE

Bisi Adewale
“Be thou diligent to know the state of thy flocks, and look well to thy herds”.
Proverbs 27:23
Family life is all about management. If you must succeed at home, then you must be a manager. You must be able to manage so many things at the same time.
Management failure, most of the time is the real failure at home. If you can’t manage your home, you will damage it. Good management at home is the real secret behind a stable, blissful, joyful and successful home.
At home, there are many things to manage if we must have the home we dream of, they are:

1. Spiritual Life Management. Many couples think they can succeed in marriage, even if they neglect their spiritual life, this is totally wrong. Your spiritual life is the foundation of a successful family life. If you neglect God, He will not be found in your home, and if He is not in your home, peace and joy will be far away from the place. Psalm 127:1-2
How to manage your spiritual life:
a. Be a man of constant, consistent and ceaseless prayer life. Your prayer life is very important to your success at home.
b. Be a Bible student, a Bible doer. Be a student of the word of God and a doer of the word of God. Any home where the Bible is the standard is always stable, so don’t joke about it. Go back to the Bible, read it, study it, memorize it, meditate upon it and ultimately do it.
c. Read Christian books.
d. Attend churches/fellowships regularly.
e. Fast often.
f. Listen to teachings tapes
g. Have a solid family altar.

2. Mouth Management. Discipline your mouth; manage your mouth. Be in total control of your mouth. Talk to build your spouse and your marriage. Never talk to destroy. Talk to your spouse, don’t talk at your spouse. Don’t criticize, condemn. Never curse or use abusive words. Never use cutting remarks or speak to put down your spouse. Rather, speak to build each other, to inspire each other, motivate and encourage each other. Colossians 4:6

3. Thought Management. “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life”. Prov. 4:23. Think positively about your spouse, marriage, your home, your children, your in-laws, etc. Stop thinking evil about each other. The way you think is the way you will act and react to your spouse. Think positively, think love, think joy, think good marriage. Your mind is the engine room of your home, think rightly.

4. In-law Management. Wise management of in-laws is needed if peace must be in your home. In-laws can be terrible if they are not wisely handled, but they can be extremely good if they are handled with the wisdom of God. You need to take time to learn how to manage in-laws to get the best out of them. I advise you to get a copy of our book titles: WIVES VERSUS MOTHER-IN-LAW, WHEN WILL THE BATTLE CEASE?

5. Conflict Management. There may be offences between partners and lovers, but if you have wisdom to manage your differences, you will be able to aptly handle your marriage and glorify the name of the Lord. Conflict is not really the issue but how we handle it. If it is handled foolishly, it will lead to great crisis, but when handled wisely, it will lead to more understanding of each other and intimacy. Proverbs 25:9

6. Character Management. Another important thing that must be well managed is our character. Good and positive character will help family life, unlike bad and unwholesome characters that will destroy it. You must deal with the following characters- pride, anger, laziness, malice, wrath, dirtiness, prayerlessness, nagging, strife, lying, etc. and build good characters like humility, love, diligence, honesty, patience, meekness, cleanliness. Without good characters, good marriage will be a mirage; manage your character. Proverbs 25:28