THINGS YOU MUST NEVER SAY TO YOUR HUSBAND Part 2
THINGS YOU MUST NEVER SAY TO YOUR HUSBAND Part 2
As a wife you can use your mouth to build or mar your marriage. To enjoy your marriage and make it habitable for your husband and children. You must learn how to communicate in a manner that edifies.
There are words that must not come out from your mouth. Listed here are THINGS YOU MUST NEVER SAY TO YOUR HUSBAND
- “If had the opportunity of re-marry, I will not marry you”. Never make the mistake of saying this. It opens your home to the attack of the devil. It means you are blaming God for bringing the man your way. It shows you are regret marrying your man. If you say this, then don’t blame him if he dumps you for another woman.
- “Do what you want to do and let me sleep”. Whenever your man wants to make love to you, give your spirit, soul and body to him. Never tell him to finish up and allow you to sleep. It is dangerous and can push your man into the waiting hands of “Tokunbo” ladies (Strange women) outside, who appreciate him better.
- “You are a lazy man that is why you are poor”. No matter how lazy your man is, never tell him he is. Rather, pray. You will not be doing yourself any favour by telling him he is a lazy man.
- “Is that all you want to do. After you did not allow me to sleep since?”. No matter how bad your husband’s sexual strength, never make jest or talk it down. If you do this, it is like killing him. It may make him lose his remaining sexual power and even drain his sexual drive. A man’s sex is attached to his ego. If he cannot satisfy his wife on bed, he thinks he is a total failure. If you are not satisfied, encourage him. Praise the little, he can do and tell him how he can improve. By doing so, you will be doing yourself a lot of good.
- “I am not enjoying sex with you at all”. Be wise! Talk your husband into a better sexual exploit. Do not destroy his affection towards you. Speak the truth in love. If you tell him he is not satisfying you at all, he may want to go and check outside whether the problem is with you or him. Speak with wisdom.
- “I hate your mother”. Anybody whose mother you hate is not likely to love you. Never hate your mother-in-law, let alone say you do, no matter how terrible she is.
- “Your mother is a witch”. Your husband may call his mother any name but please never join him. Never say your mother-in-law is a witch even if everybody knows she is. She is your husband’s first lover and he cannot stop loving her no matter what happens. If you call her a bad name because she or your husband is fighting you, it will go on records forever even if the dispute is settled.
- “You are a bad leader”. Never speak against your husband’s leadership ability. Rather, pray for his better performance.
- “I do not want our children to take after you”. Who else will they take after? If he is doing anything you do not want your children to imbibe, you better pray and lead them to God, instead of creating unnecessary problems for yourself through unguarded statement.
- “I am sorry, I love you”. These are two wonderful statements needed in every healthy marriage. However, it means something else, if you use them together”. It means you regret loving him.
- “You dress and look like an Old man”. No man wants to be told he is old, even if he is. Never call your husband an old man no matter his age. He is still your lover boy. Even at 77 years-old, he still want to be seen as a 17 years old with 60 years of experience. So make him feel like that.
- “I told you it will fail”. That he fails in a venture you warned him against does not justify this. It will definitely annoy him, break his already fractured ego and put you in trouble. Rather, encourage him, comfort him, pray for him and stand by him.
- “You are not like my father”. When you know your father is better why didn’t you marry him? Appreciate your man for who he is. He cannot be anybody else.
- “No money, No sex”. Never use sex as a weapon to fight your husband. Don’t use it to punish, fight or hold him to ransom. Sex is a duty to your man; He has the right to your body, for he owns it (1 Cor. 7:1-5). It is unscriptural to deny him the body which belongs to him. Be available for him and do not give him away to strange women through your carelessness and foolish attitude.
- “Even if you die, I won’t mourn you”. He may think you want him dead or plan to kill him. No matter how annoyed you are, never say something like this.
- “That is how you did three months ago”. Never refer to old issues. Do not re-open old wound. Forgive and forget. Let your home move forward. Learn to avoid referring to old issues as much as possible. Use your tongue wisely. Do not destroy your home with “bad mouth”. Speak wisely. Let your tongue be a home builder not a destroyer. Let it be a pillar that will uphold your home, not a caterpillar that will destroy it. Ephesians 4:29 “Let not corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth…………….”
- “The thing under your trouser is the only thing that makes you a man”. Never say your husband is not a man, if he is not a man, why did you marry him; telling a man that he is not a man bruises his ego and can make him to lose his temper, please don’t say so.
THINGS YOU MUST NEVER SAY TO YOUR HUSBAND Part 2
THINGS YOU MUST NEVER SAY TO YOUR HUSBAND Part 2
Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog: www.bisiadewale.com, Website:www.familybooster.com facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale
