FINANCIAL FACTORS THAT MAKE MARRIAGE TO FAIL – Part 2
Bisi Adewale
When we lack adequate knowledge to manage money, marriage becomes very difficult. Money is one of the factors that determine the overall success in marriage. Adequate knowledge about it makes marriage more enjoyable. Listed here are the financial factors that make marriage to fail
- Independent Mindedness. Many people believe that their money is independent of their marriage. They are ready to be joined to their mates if it does not involve their bank accounts. Their mindset is; I made my money and I should be able to spend it the way I want. This is the main reason money is destroying homes.
Solution: What God has joined together, never permit account (money) to put asunder. Work in unity in every aspect of your marital life, money inclusive. Mark 10:9
- Some people are simply irresponsible. Many of them are making money but will never take care of themselves and the children. This is very bad. I have met a couple of men, who though they are graduates, they would rather stay at home, fully depending on their wives than look for something worthwhile to do.
Solution: You are not yet a man if you cannot feed your family. In fact, the Bible says whosoever fails to provide for his family is worse than an infidel. (1Timothy 5:8). Go out to work brother. Feed your wife and children. Provide for them; that is what makes you a man. (1 Thessalonians 5:8)
- For the female folk, some women are also unproductive. They are not “help meet”, but “help eat”. They depend on their husbands for everything including the purchase of a mere handkerchief. That is totally wrong. Although, in some parts of the world a woman may not work, but in this part of the world, women cannot afford to be lazy and dependent. “She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands”. Proverbs 31:13
Solution: Get a job for yourself, no matter how little. There is dignity in labour.
- Too Many Responsibilities. When too many mouths are depending on a meager income, it will affect the home. Many families in Africa are suffering under this yoke.
Solution: Build a family you can be responsible for. Personally, I suggest a maximum of three children per family. Don’t carry the load of your extended family on your head lest it breaks your neck. Seeking to satisfy everybody will only destroy your financial life.
- Financial Infidelity. Lack of faithfulness in financial matters in marriage is another pitfall in family success. When married people are fond of cheating on their spouses, giving secret support to their own families, stealing, lying, hiding new things bought without the knowledge of their partners, accumulating secret debts, making major purchases without informing their spouses, they are not financially intimate. The truth is if couples cannot agree in money, they will find it difficult to agree on other parts of their life.
Solution: Be totally faithful and open to each other. Don’t cheat on each other, be transparent and trustworthy.
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