Major areas of unity in marriage
“And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth”. Genesis 1:26
When God created the light, firmament, water, grass, stars, sun, moon and animals; he created them by the word of His command. “And God said, let there be light, and there was light (Genesis 1:3)
But when he was about to create man, He said, “LET US MAKE MAN IN OUR IMAGE”.
Man was made through the unity of the heavenly because man was to be a relationship being that cannot succeed alone, it was “US” that made man, it is “US” that can keep him.
Use more of “let us” in your marriage, work and walk in unity.
“Let us” is a solid marriage language which God used to create and sustain man, you will need it to keep and sustain your home.
Solo life, single life is not permitted in married life. You can’t be married and be living like a single person. You’ve lost your right to live only by your own wisdom, knowledge and philosophy as soon as you say “I do”. In fact, the “I do” that you said on the day of your wedding simply means, “I am done with my self-will, self-knowledge to give room for unity of the body, soul and spirit with my spouse.
If you WANT TO GO FAST GO ALONE, IF YOU WANT TO GO FAR, GO TOGETHER. I think you will prefer to go FAR than to go FAST and end FAST.
God planted your spouse into your life as a co-builder, don’t ever think he/she does not matter, no! your partner is very important to your success. STRONGER you will likely be when you are TOGETHER.
Paul Apostle said, “I beseech Euodias (put your name), and beseech Syntyche (put the name of your spouse), that they be of the same mind in the Lord”. Philippians 4:2
It is the same word I have for you today, you and your spouse should have the same mind in the Lord, encourage togetherness, fondness and oneness that is what is called marriage.
Where unity must be:
- Let there be unity in your mind. Think unity, think team, avoid thought of separation or divisive thinking.
- Let there be unity in your attitude. Always act as a team player, marriage is like table tennis game, you can’t play it alone.
- Let there be unity in your reaction. Never react negatively when you are angry in such a way that it will destroy team spirit.
- Let there be unity in your voice. Say things that will only bring unity, avoid criticism, condemnation and let-down, rather praise, appreciate, honour and commend. Use “Let us”; avoid “I”, “Me”, “Mine” and “Myself”. Speak unity, unity is life.
- Life Unity. See your life as one, one life, one focus, one goal, one joy, one destiny, see your life like this and do everything to provoke it.
- Project Unity. Have your property as one body, build together, buy together and grow together.
- Parenting Unity. Raise and train your children together, never allow your children to come between you, be one in care for them/ be one in discipline them.
- Money Unity. Don’t ever allow money to separate you, No! don’t permit that, it has destroy many homes, don’t permit it to destroy yours.
- In–laws Unity. Don’t ever allow in-laws to come between you, be wise, the way you handle them.
- Associational Unity. Don’t ever permit your friends to come between you, any friend should be “family friends”. Any friend that hates your spouse or teaches you to punish your spouse is not a friend.
- Bedroom Unity. Stay in the same room and on the same bed, in the same house. Give room for romance and sex in your marriage. Sex should build and cement your marriage not destroying it. 1 Cor. 7:1-5
Major Areas of Unity in Marriage
