Late Marriage – Is It Realy A Late Marriage

Late Marriage – Is It Realy A Late Marriage
– Bisi Adewale

“To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven”
(Eccl. 3:1).

I strongly believe everybody is designed for a mate. There is a maid for every male. There is a man for every “wo-man”. God made it so. When He commanded Noah to build an ark, He also ordered him to take all animals into the ark male and female.
“You shall take with you seven of every clean animal, a male and his female, two of animals that are unclean, a male and his female.
Also seven each of birds of the air male and female, to keep the species alive on the face of all the earth”. (Genesis 7:3-4).

Therefore, it is not the will of God for any of His children to be without a mate because it is with a mate that His purpose of fruitfulness and multiplication can be fulfilled.
“Then God blessed them, and God said, be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth and subdue it, have a dominion………” (Genesis 1:28).

If God wants all of us to get married when then can we say somebody is marrying late? Many people will say when a lady celebrates her 30th birthday as a single, she is already having a late marriage. Late marriage is not all about time. Readiness for marriage is more than being advanced in age. It involves total maturity. A lady that graduates at 18 may be ready for marriage at 22 or 23. But what of a lady that starts university at 28 or a 34-year-old man that is still trusting God for a job. They cannot be said to be ready for marriage despite their age. Marriage involves 9-fold maturities which are:

1.Physical maturity – This includes age, good health with ability to work and earn a living.

2.Spiritual maturity – Being genuinely born again and filled with the Holy Spirit; ability to hear from God, pray and study the Bible. Possessing the fruit and gifts of the Spirit.

3.Emotional Maturity – Ability to handle anger, sadness, joy, love, hatred, etc. Readiness to leave one’s parents, family and friends and cleave to one’s spouse.

4.Social maturity – Ability to forgive and forbear. Friendliness, comradeship, ability to adjust, accommodate, and development of good and godly character.

5.Financial Maturity – Ability to make, manage, save and invest money.

6.Moral Maturity – Ability to put sex under control. Abstain from sex before marriage as well as sticking to one’s partner after wedding.

7.Intellectual Maturity – Good knowledge of marriage, one’s profession or career, etc.

8.Mental Maturity – Ability to think and act rightly towards marriage, In-laws, children, spouse, neighbours, etc.

9.Domestic Maturity – Ability to do house chores, cook, serve and take good care of babies, etc.
A lady may be in her thirties and still be immature in any of these. Such should first seek ways of developing herself rather than running after marriage.
But if a lady is truly mature in these areas and in her mid- thirties then we can say she is having a late marriage. We therefore need to check the cause of this because if you are truly mature you can hardly lack a mate.
Watch out for our further write up that will open your eyes to the likely causes of this unpleasant experience and how to outsmart them.

Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert. He is the president of college of marital success. He has authored more than 40 books, a renowned international conference speaker and marriage counselor, the host of T.V program called family booster, and the set man of family booster ministry.

You can get his life changing books at http://www.totalfamilyresources.com and free resources on marriage, relationship and family at https://bisiadewale.com.