INFATUATION AND LOVE-SPOT THE DIFFERENCE
LOVE
- It is godly
- Love is not blind
- You use your common sense here hence you know wrong from right
- It is patient, it waits till after wedding before sex
- It cannot disorganise you
- It puts God first
- It lasts long and leads to a glorious marriage
- If you are in love, you will be in control
- It does not focus on outward attraction
- No eye service
- It is selfless
- It obeys the church authority
- It focuses on purity
- It glorifies and honours God
- It comes from matured mind
- It desires to give
- It pleases God
- It is not proud, it is submissive
- It is not envious
- It is a good foundation upon which you can build your home as it is based on God.
- It is an emotion mixed with kindness and compassion
INFATUATION
- It emanates from flesh
- It starts fast, they call it “love at first sight”
- Infatuation is blind
- common sense is absent here, hence, anything can happen
- It wants sex now!
- It disorganizes as you do things out of your sense.
- It Idolises the so-called lover, hence he/she is considered first before God or His word.
- It does not last long and it produces bitterness
- If you are infatuated, you lose control of yourself
- It is based on outward attraction
- It involves eye service (pretence)
- It is selfish
- It disobeys parents, and the church authority
- It glorifies unrighteousness
- It glorifies and exalts gains
- It is from immature mind
- It desires to take
- It annoys God
- It is proud
- It is full of envy
- It is a bad foundation for marriage. Do not build on it.
- It is only emotion without compassion.
With these differences in mind, examine whether you are truly in love or infatuated. Test whether that person is in love with you or infatuated.
One thing I want you to bear in mind, is that any relationship that is not based on God is not based on love. So all those boy/girl friendship are not love affair but infatuation induced.
