How To Overcome Constant Quarrel In Your Marriage
Bisi Adewale
You can put an end to constant quarrel in your home; you can turn your home to a place to be all you need is God’s wisdom to put all weapons of war in your marriage to rest.
They are: –
1. Give room for the spirit of God: – Allow Holy Spirit to be your teacher and friend. Let the spirit of holiness and righteousness take over your totality (your mortal body). By so doing, you will fear the Lord and this will enable you to hate quarrel. (Prov. 8:13)
2. Readiness to forgive: – Be ready to forgive and forget any pain/grief caused you by your spouse. If you are truly crucified with Jesus, you won’t find it difficult to forgive, forgive your spouse no matter the gravity of his/her offences so that you can receive forgiveness from God. Any time, you bear grudges against anybody when you see him/her, your mind pricks. It means you can only be at peace when your mind/heart frees all your offenders. Forgive. It is good for your healthy and life. Unforgiveness hinders prayers.
3. Ability to Say Sorry: – This simple statement “I am Sorry” might save you from a lot of troubles if only you can use it every time there is a misunderstanding at home. This statement does not change your position or status but add value to you. Quarrel or misunderstanding among couples would be a thing of the past if only every man (Husband) or woman (wife) is ready to say “I am sorry”. If you find it difficult to say this, ask God to give you the grace. Lock up your self in the room and say it several times. You will find out that you will be able to apologise for any wrong deed against your spouse.
4. Understand your Spouse: – When you understand your spouse, it will reduce the frequency of your offence against him/her. You have got to study your spouse’s likes and dislikes so that it will be easy for you to live in harmony. Never compare your spouse with anybody. Don’t say, why are you not behaving like this or that person? Appreciate your spouse. Let him/her be happy for marrying you. Take delight in satisfying your spouse. By doing so, you are creating joy in your home.
5. Destroy Record of Offences: – Never keep records of your spouse’s wrong deeds. It is ungodly to start reminding your spouse what he/she did in the second year of your wedding when celebrating your tenth year’s anniversary. If God can forget your past sin and give you a clean bill of health, why can’t you forget your spouse’s past offences? Never keep diary of offence. It is ungodly.
6. Acceptability: – Accept your spouse, the way he or she is. Remember, we have gender or individual differences and you are from different families and background. Accept his/her way of life, and if there is need for a change or an improvement, introduce it wisely.
7. Never Revenge: – Don’t recompense evil for evil. Because you caught your man in an illicit relationship does not mean you should also engage in such act. It will never be a plus to your marriage but would worsen the situation. Never retaliate rather reconcile.
8. Be Prayerful: – Pray without ceasing. The best you can do to eliminate feud in your home is to pray. Commit your spouse to God in prayers. Don’t think it’s a little thing and you can handle it. The devil may penetrate if there is no power of God at work. Rebuke the spirit of quarrel and you will be glad you did. Use the key of prayer to silence the devil in your marriage. There is nothing you can do on your own. Leave the battle for God and He will fill your lips with testimonies.
9. Communication: – Let there be no communication breakdown in your marriage. Express your mind wisely, if there is anything you are not comfortable with, keep discussing with your spouse until you are both satisfied. Never bottle up any issue because you might explode in a negative way in the future.
10. Agreement: – Can two walk together, except they agree?” (Amos 3:3). Be ready to agree with your spouse. Never prove difficult. Let there be agreement in prayer, discipline of children, dealing with in-laws, finances, relations with friends, harmonizing career, etc. When there is agreement in marriage, success is inevitable.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
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