Fulfillment in marriage Pt 1
-Bisi Adewale
“Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity; for that is thy portion in this life and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun”. (Eccl. 9:9)
Ultimate fulfillment is the plan of God for us in marriage. And since it is the will of God for us to be fulfilled in marriage, it is achievable. That problematic marriage can turn to a romantic one, constant misunderstanding can turn to loving understanding, if we can engage in the following things:
1. Giving. “You can give without loving, but you can’t love without giving”, so say one wise man. If you truly love your spouse then you must be ready to give the following:
– Yourself. Give yourself as a gift to your spouse, attend to him or her, give a listening ear, give a consoling bosom, give a helping hand, give a kind word, and give your time and affection.
– Your domestic support. Support that woman at home, help with that baby, help in the kitchen, and help with the house chores. These are what make you a real man.
– Give money. As a man, provide adequately for your family, while the woman should know that whatever she earns should be for the benefit of her family not just for her.
– Give protection. Protect your spouse from your family and “emotional aggression” never allow anybody to molest your spouse in your presence.
– Give peace. By all means, let there be peace in your home. Be the first person that will seek for reconciliation after a misunderstanding, be ready to lose an argument, be a peace maker not a truce breaker, fight for your marriage, never fight in your marriage.
– Give gift. Be generous with gift in your marriage. Give generously to your spouse, know that everybody loves gift, no matter how rich they are, your gift can also make room for you.
– Give romance. Go all out to satisfy your spouse romantically. Make sex happen in your marriage and be creative about it.
– Give praise, appreciation, honour and respect.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 40 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
Get daily lesson and teaching and articles from his blog: bisiadewale.com and You can also get his resources and also send an mail to familybooster01@yahoo.com. Visit https://bisiadewale.com for daily updating!
