Faces Of Intimacy In Marriage 3
Faces Of Intimacy In Marriage 3
Bisi Adewale
To build a solid marriage, your marriage must be intimate, and for a marriage to be called intimate, it must possess all the ‘faces’ of intimacy in a balanced way. Only then can you enjoy a blissful relationship.
1. Recreational Intimacy. This involves enjoying playful activities together. Watch films, play together, watch or play sports together, prepare meals together, visit recreational places, museums, parks, garden, zoos, go on vacation and spend time together. (Song of Solomon 6:2-3)
2. Parental Intimacy. It involves bearing and raising children together. Have the same focus for the children and don’t allow them to come between you. Care for them and raise them together for God, but remembering that they are outsiders in marriage. They are part of your family, but are not a part of your marriage. (Proverbs 22:6)
3. Project Intimacy. This involves planning together about the future and carrying them out. Harmonize your visions and jointly turn them into action. Combine your resources to do things. It may be about having a car, building a house, travelling abroad, starting a business of your own, moving to another town, etc. (Proverbs 27:18)
4. Success Intimacy. This involves seeing your success as family success without personalizing it. It is common to see people personalize success or struggle so as to take the glory. Success should bring you closer not separate you. (Proverbs 25:27)
5. Challenges Intimacy. It is common for couples to drift apart during hard times like academics failure, business failure, sickness or bereavement, but this should not be. Couples should come together in time of challenges to support each other. Be pillars of support and strongholds of refuge for each other. In times of storm, they should learn to swim together instead of watching each other sink. Challenges intimacy is a process by which couples come together to fight and win their battles without blaming each other for their woes.
6. Financial Intimacy. It involves having the same financial goal, spending together and being financially open to each other. When couples hide their pay packet from each other, it is a sign of disunity. Couples can easily talk about everything except money. Most couples fight about money as they build their personal empires. Financial intimacy involves discussing and sharing your finances and having a focus about your financial goal. If you don’t spend money together, you are having an intimacy problem. If your spouse is not aware of how much you earn, or you don’t know his or hers, your marriage is not okay. (Proverbs 27:24-27)
7. Cultural Intimacy. We are all from different families and cultures but the differences in our cultures can be a blessing or a curse depending on the way we handle them. Cultural intimacy is when you combine your different backgrounds and cultures to produce a beautiful blend.
8. Matrimonial Intimacy. This is when you learn to live in peace and joy with your spouse. It is a time to blend your ideas about marriage, love, parenting, in-laws relationship instead of allowing crisis in your marriage. (Ecclesiastes 9:9)
9. Sexual Intimacy. Sex is one of the most important determinants of healthy marital intimacy. It is not just about sleeping together; it is about LOVE MAKING and enjoying sex deeply with each other. Most couples fight over issues of sex, turning the gun against each other. Their bedroom is consequently turned into a boxing ring. Sex should cement couples not separate them. When couples are not sexually intimate, all other areas are always difficult to maintain. (Song of Solomon 1:15-17)
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 40 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
Get daily lesson and teaching and articles from his blog: bisiadewale.com and You can also get his resources and also send an mail to familybooster01@yahoo.com. Visit https://bisiadewale.com for daily updating!
Faces Of Intimacy In Marriage 3
