Marriage

ENJOYING INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE

May 20, 2016

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Intimacy is the closeness of you and your spouse in all ways. It is not something you achieve and relax; it is something that must be nurtured every day of your marriage.

Forms of intimacy in marriage include:

1. Physical Intimacy: It involves doing things together, staying in the same room, keeping each other company, dressing alike, defending and protecting each other.

2. Emotional Intimacy: This is the closeness created through sharing of feelings, plans, thoughts, and openness of mind. Couples pay attention to each other feeling, and are vulnerable to each other, no reservation. Be open, be free and let the door of your mind be open, not just that of your mouth.

3. Mental Intimacy: This has to do with couples having the same thought believing the same thing, having the same mental attitude and conception, dealing with negative conception together and developing a new one, having the same values.

4. Spiritual Intimacy: Involves sharing religious beliefs, and observing religious practices together such as praying together, studying the Bible together, family altar, going to church together, sharing your spiritual experiences. We suggest that couples should attend the same church and serve the same God together, have time to worship God together, listen to teaching tapes together and study the same devotional.

5. Financial Intimacy: Involves discussing and sharing about your finances and having a focus about your financial goals. If you do not spend money together you are having intimacy problem.

6. Social Intimacy: It has to do with living together as friends, playing together, spending time together, attending social events together, doing things together at home, and carrying each other along. Can you say your wife or husband is your best friend?

7. Intellectual Intimacy. This is not about discussing highly intellectual ideas. It simply means sharing your thought about things around you like food, children, crime, politics, sport, finances, health etc. It also involves attending seminars and conferences together, reading the same books and discussing knowledge acquired with your spouse.