Enemies of Love Pt 3
No marriage can survive without genuine love. Our love can be enhanced by increasing our love for God. Most of the turbulent marriages now were built on lust not on love. Here, lie the enemies of true love in marriage. Our prompt response by avoiding them to crouch into our marriage we do us a lots of good.
- Unfaithfulness. Having sex outside marriage has a very high possibility of destroying trust, breed hatred and destroy marriage. Get all the sex you need from your wife, don’t look elsewhere for it, don’t destroy your marriage. (Proverbs 5:3-5, 7:24-27)10. 2
- Behaving like Jesus before wedding, turning to Judas after. We are always at our best before wedding, loving, caring, pampering, communicating, giving attention and affection, with intoxicating love, but as soon as we leave the altar and honey moon ends, we turn to another thing; bringing out the worst in us, shouting, criticizing, condemning, comparing, with high level of hatred, contention, unforgiveness, it is a case of starting as if we are Jesus but ending as Judas. Ephesians 4:22-23.
- Lack of Romance. Our marriages starts as a very deep romance, with high level of intimacy and bonding, with joyful interaction and thoughtful actions, but soon after the birth of the first child, we do lose touch with romance and playfulness. Our marriages become dry and drab, leading to lukewarm marriage and dead affection. This will then give room for offences, misunderstanding, hurts, and bitterness. If love in marriages must remain aglow, we must return to the days of playfulness, humour and romance. (Eccl. 9:9, SOS 2:4)
- Boredom in the bedroom. Bedroom is the strong room of any family life. Without the strong bedroom, marriage is at risk. Don’t allow boredom in your bedroom, sex in marriage is holy, righteous and acceptable. God is involved in it; it is something that must be done joyfully, consistently and creatively with one’s spouse and in secret. Wives should understand their husband’s sexual make-up and know that men are more aggressive than women as far as bedroom is concern and that one way to keep one’s marriage is by having sex creatively with one’s husband. Husband should know that women needs love outside the bedroom, don’t just love her for sex, attend to her during the day, be a day light lover, don’t be a midnight ‘robber’. Husbands should also understand that wives need long foreplay before sex, don’t rape your wife, make love. (Proverbs 5:15-19)
- Taking each other for granted. It is very easy to take our spouses for granted. It is very easy to hurt deeply those we love so dearly. We tend to honour strangers and respect visitors but neglecting our spouses, talking carelessly, dressing shabbily, removing courtesy, not appreciative, embarrass openly and remove the veil of reverence. As soon as we start to take each other for granted, we allow hurts and misunderstanding, we give room for hatred and offences, leading to bitterness. The result- a battlefield marriage. SOS 5:1
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 40 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
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