13 Perfect Ways To Be Example To Your Children part2
By: Bode Akinola
13 Perfect Ways To Be Example To Your Children part2
If you want to give your children the best chance at life, make sure they know their parents are crazy about each other. 13 Perfect Ways To Be Example To Your Children part2
When I was growing up, there was no delusion that my parents’ marriage was perfect. Although I sometimes heard them fight (politely), I still knew my parents were in love.
13 Perfect Ways To Be Example To Your Children part2
That’s a really big deal, because children who come from intact families have a huge amount of benefits in really all aspects of their life.
In other words, if you want to give your children the best chance at life, make sure they know their parents are crazy about each other. These are some of the things every child deserves to see their dads do for his wife:13 Perfect Ways To Be Example To Your Children part2 13 Perfect Ways To Be Example To Your Children part2
7. Tell your dating story
It’s no chick flick worthy storyline, but knowing why my parents fell in love in the first place helped us recognize that those initial reasons were still there.
8. Sing and dance
Short kitchen waltz sessions were my Dad’s way to show my mom he loved her, and she would grin and go along with it. Singing and/or dancing may not be your thing, and that’s fine. But find a thing. This is a trigger to kids that things are good in the world of their parents’ marriage. 13 Perfect Ways To Be Example To Your Children part2 13 Perfect Ways To Be Example To Your Children part2
9. Read to her while she cleans
Don’t get excited. This is not a “get out of chores free” card, but at times when my mom’s idea of enjoying some free time involved scrubbing out the sink, my dad would keep her company by reading a book aloud to her just to show he valued her company.
10. Give love taps
It’s a little love tap that translates into knowing your parents are still really into each other.
11. Support her service
My parents had busy lives: lots of kids, deeply involved in their church, work and community. My mom volunteered in religious groups that would take her away from home for hours. He supported and encouraged her to do those things, even if it meant balancing the home life when she was gone.
12. Don’t criticize her cooking
Your wife will probably never cook like your mama, and that’s OK. If she is kind enough to cook for you, make sure you never criticize what she made, even if you can hardly choke it down.
13. Counsel with her
We knew my Dad loved my mom, because he wanted her ideas and opinions. He wanted her to question his ideas and point out some of his bad ones. Children learn their parents are in an equal, respecting marriage if they make choices together.
Your children need to have confidence in your marriage. They need to know you’re in love. Now at 20 years of marriage, I have just as much confidence that my parents love each other as I did growing up, and knowing that has made a world of difference.
