HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR COURTSHIP
-Oba Samuel
HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR COURTSHIP
There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations and which fails so regularly as love.H
HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR COURTSHIP
The cost of maintaining a courtship is more than the cost of initiating it. This is what is unknown to many singles rushing into it on a daily basis. Recent research shows that four out of six courtships break while only two ends in marriage out of every six. Meanwhile it is hurtful to both parties involved. The relationship you have is worth saving. Therefore to sustain your courtship, digest the following:
HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR COURTSHIP
- Build Trust. Trust is one of the major pillars that uphold any courtship. If you allow distrust, you will definitely ruin that courtship. Lack of trust normally brings suspicions, breaks confidence and it will make you suspect his or her moves. You could even accuse your partner of being involved in another relationship. This will set the courtship in a sickly condition. Whether you are in the same environment or far from one another, build trust!
- Communication. To make your partner feel loved, indulge in constant communication. Nothing hurts a lady like a communication breakdown as it keeps them in doubt. Lack of constant communication will erode your love from the heart of your partner. Constant communication can be through e-mails, phone calls, letters, text messages or fax. This is very important and expensive but it strengthens and it’s absence can break the best courtship because it will tell your partner in very simple terms that you are longer interested in him or her. Communication is vital to the success or otherwise of any relationship. That is why tongue training must be a continuous exercise if you must be successful in that. Engage in positive communication. To nurture your relationship, create time to discuss. The average female uses 34,000 words daily while the average male uses 20,000. That means ladies talk better than guys. They are of the belief that any guy who doesn’t have time to discuss with them does not really love them. Discuss your plans, needs, visions, purpose, jobs, family, etc. do not just talk, be a good listener.HOW TO MAINTAN YOUR COURTSHIP
- Care. Lack of care has eroded love from many relationships. Both parties in a relationship desire a caring partner but ladies cherish a caring partner more than gifts. But most male tend to mistake gift for care. Care in the real sense involves:
- To look after somebody
- Making sure your partner is safe and sound
- Ensuring the comfort of one’s partner
- Providing for your partner’s need
- To make your partner feel important
- To be interested and concerned about your partner.
- To demonstrate feelings of affection.
Ladies do not joke with it. They want a show of concern, affection and worry from their would-be husbands. They want to know how much you care before they know how much you love. Little things like constant phone calls, text messages, baby treatment, going the extra mile to get them satisfied and always being there for them especially in times of difficulty will grant you a space in their hearts.
- Remember Special Dates. Relationship is like a computer plugged into the internet. If you have the password, you will log in and enjoy the facilities. To keep affection alive; you must cherish special dates like birthdays, the day your courtship commence, success in an examination or new job, etc. Most men do not celebrate special dates as some do not even remember their birthday, but to ladies, it is a costly mistake if you forget their birthday. Love is fuelled in a relationship by celebrating special dates. Special dates mean a lot to ladies than guys. They believe that if you truly love them, you won’t forget their special dates.HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR COURTSHIP
- See Your Partner As The Best. If that relationship must count, you must see your partner as the best among all others. There’s always a temptation to go for somebody presumed to be better than your partner. You can conquer this temptation by loving him or her the way he/she is. Do not compare your partner with anybody. E positive about his/her looks, stature, dressing, etc. once this is achieved; he/she will feel loved and be looking forward to be joined with you in holy wedlock.
- Admit Your Mistakes. If you must keep love burning in your relationship, you must learn how to curb your misunderstanding in order not to lead to quarrel by admitting your mistakes.
Many relationships are hanging today because parties involved find it difficult to admit their mistakes when they are wrong. This creates a sort of fear in ladies, making them wonder, “Is this the man I want to marry?” As a guy or lady, be ready to say “I was wrong”, and “I am sorry” because you cannot always be right.
- Place Value on Your Partner. I have seen a sister whose fiancé will be out of constant for 3 or 4 months only to resurface and pick the pieces of the relationship from where they stooped as though nothing happened. When she complains, his response is always “can’t you understand? All the running I am doing are for both of us to enjoy when we get married”. He is not aware that ladies are emotional beings. His absence has hurt her feelings which left many questions in her heart. Value him or her and set your priorities right. Value him or her and set your priorities right, no job, business or ministry should take you away completely from your partner. If you don’t know how to do this as a single, you can’t e a loving husband or wife in marriage.
- Attend singles’ seminars. Singles seminars are informative and educative programme that will teach you how to initiate, keep a godly relationship and other necessities like parenting, financial freedom and lots more. Even if you are lazy in reading, programme, like this will afford you the opportunity to hear practical examples which will nourish your courtship and prepare you for a blissful marriage. One of such programme is Breakthrough for Singles&Married. If you want me to invite you, text invite me to Breakthrough for Singles to- 08068312004.
HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR COURTSHIP
OBA SAMUEL is a family and relationship coach.A seasoned speaker in singles and couples conferences.Happily married to his queen-Oluwakemi;a babe of rare qualities and they are blessed with Godly&great children.Connect me on Twitter @PastorOba .E-mail: obasamuel09@gmail.com
