How Lubrication Can Enhance Sexual Enjoyment
How Lubrication Can Enhance Sexual Enjoyment


-Bisi Adewale

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR WIFE HATE SEX-I have attended to countless number of men in counselling room whose major grouse with their wives is hatred for sex.Many of them wonder why women hate sex so much.
I can’t forget the case of a man who came to tell me that his wife is  wicked. Wicked? I asked.Yes,she is so wicked, he replied.I asked him,what has she done wrong? He said, everything;she is very wicked. I asked: is she fighting you ;he said no,but she is wicked. I asked :is she stealing your money? he said no; but she is very wicked. I asked so many questions to know what the wife is really doing wrong.His answer was,no,she is only wicked.WHAT TO DO IF YOUR WIFE HATE SEX
I became confused, until I remember I had not asked him about their sex life. The I asked him and his wife, whether I am permitted to ask intimate questions, in which he quickly, gave his permission. I then asked, when was the last time you had sex as a couple,the man quickly got up and said, thank you pastor; you are a genuine man of God. He then face his wife and said Mama Ngor; can you answer pastor right now the reason you have been running away to sleep in the children’s room and refuse to give me sex in the last two weeks Pastor, that is why I said she is wicked,is she not wicked? He asked.
After teaching the wife what to do and gave her a copy of our book SECRETS OF AN IRRESISTIBLE WIFE, they left my office. Few weeks later when I saw the man again I asked him,hope your wife is no more wicked? He laugh and said thank you Pastor, she is cooperating, she is no more wicked.WHAT TO DO IF YOUR WIFE HATE SEX
In a Men’s Convention where i ministered recently ,men were asked to tell us their Major Challenges in Marriage. It is interesting to note that more than 80% Men present in the meeting pointed to the bedroom.WHAT TO DO IF YOUR WIFE HATE SEX
A Man was given a form to fill ,the form contain the following columns: name, date of birthplace of birth,age,profession,religion and sex. He filled the other columns correctly but when filling SEX column,He wrote: Not satisfied at all,my wife is disappointing me on the sex column.
All these are to tell you that a whole lots of men are also encountering what you are facing in your marriage, all you need to do is get the right wisdom to handle it. What to do:
1: UNDERSTAND THAT WOMEN ARE NOT WIRED LIKE MEN: Biologically most married men want sex two or three times a week, but women want it two or three times a month mostly during ovulation, that explain why she doesn’t look like somebody that is moved to have sex at all.WHAT TO DO IF YOUR WIFE HATE SEX
2: KNOW THAT YOUR WIFE HAVE “TURN OFF”: Apart from the biological make up of a woman,other things can make  your wife to hate sex,we call it “Turn off”. This you need to understand and avoid them. These may involve your outlook(pot-belly), your character,habits,lack of provision,failure to provide for her etc. please check our book:Secrets Of An Irresistible Husband for more on this.
3: KNOW THAT YOUR WIFE “HAVE TURN ON” : You may also not enjoy your wife if you don’t know what you can do with her to make her want to have sex with you,we call this her “TURN ON”. You need to know these turn on and do them and they are different from woman to woman. This may involve gifts, playing with her, dating her, good words, appreciation etc.
4: YOU NEED TO LEARN HOW TO HANDLE “NOT TONIGHT DARLING” WITHOUT TAKING IT PERSONAL: Learn how to handle it when she says “not tonight darling” stop been childish when she says this Stop fighting her or keeping malice, you will only make her to think all you want her for is sex.

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Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog:  www.bisiadewale.comWebsite:www.familybooster.com facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale.Twitter@bisiadewale