9 FOLDS OF MATURITY YOU NEED IN THAT RELATIONSHIP
By Bisi Adewale.
If God wants all of us to get married when then can we say somebody is marrying late? Many people will say when a lady celebrates her 30th birthday as a single, she is already having a late marriage. Late marriage is not all about time. Readiness for marriage is more than being advanced in age. It involves total maturity. A lady that graduates at 18 may be ready for marriage at 22 or 23. But what of a lady that starts university at 28 or a 34-year-old man that is still trusting God for a job. They cannot be said to be ready for marriage despite their age.
Marriage involves 9-fold maturities which are:
1. Physical maturity – This includes age, good health with the ability to work and earn a living.
- Spiritual maturity – Being genuinely born again and filled with the Holy Spirit; ability to hear from God, pray and study the Bible. Possessing the fruit and gifts of the Spirit.
3.Emotional Maturity – Ability to handle anger, sadness, joy, love, hatred, etc. Readiness to leave one’s parents, family and friends and cleave to one’s spouse.
4.Social maturity – Ability to forgive and forbear. Friendliness, comradeship, ability to adjust, accommodate, and development of good and godly character.
5.Financial Maturity – Ability to make, manage, save and invest money.
6.Moral Maturity – Ability to put sex under control. Abstain from sex before marriage as well as sticking to one’s partner after the wedding.
- Intellectual Maturity – Good knowledge of marriage, one’s profession or career, etc.
8.Mental Maturity – Ability to think and act rightly towards marriage, In-laws, children, spouse, neighbours, etc.
9.Domestic Maturity – Ability to do house chores, cook, serve and take good care of babies, etc.
A lady may be in her thirties and still be immature in any of these. Such should first seek ways of developing herself rather than running after marriage.
But if a lady is truly mature in these areas and in her mid-thirties then we can say she is having a late marriage. We therefore need to check the cause of this because if you are truly mature you can hardly lack a mate.