7 CRISIS CENTERS IN MARRIAGE AND HOW TO HANDLE THEM

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How To Fix Your Marriage Problem Quickly
How To Fix Your Marriage Problem Quickly

7 CRISIS CENTERS IN MARRIAGE AND HOW TO HANDLE THEM

Couples fight about so many things in marriage. While some are very weighty, some are trivial and can be silly. Call crisis centers in marriage are areas where the majority of couples do have misunderstandings or fights.

According to marriage and family counsellor, Dr John Gottman, 69 per cent of marriage conflicts are never solved. Yes, 69 per cent!

This means couples often fight the same fight over and over again for about fifty years of marriage.

The majority of married couples tend to fight over the same seven things I will be mentioning here. I will open your eyes to them and teach you how to deal with them:

  1. MONEY

This tends to be the biggest crisis area in modern marriage. Couples fight about money over and over again. If there is enough money, couples will fight on how to spend it. If there is not enough money to spend, they will fight and blame each other for their poverty.

A poll of over two thousand British adults by legal firm Slater and Gordon found that money worries top the list of reasons why married couples split up, with one in five saying it was the biggest cause of marital strife.

WHAT TO DO 

Learn how to make money, how to spend it, save it and how to invest it. Couples who learn to handle money early will have greater harmony in marriage. You are advised to take a course on money management in marriage to increase your financial intelligence.

  1. SEX

This is another crisis centre in marriage. You need to work together to make your sex life an exciting one. If your sex life is bad, your marriage will suffer for it. It was Marabel Morgan, the author of Total Woman who said, “If marriage hit the rock, the rock is likely in the mattress.

WHAT TO DO 

To make your marriage better, strive for sexual fulfilment. To have sexual fulfilment, start with knowing what sex is all about and connecting with each other. To connect, you must talk as lovers. It also involves talking about your sexual life.

Talk deeply and frankly about your sex life. Lack of sexual communication is a major killer of marriage. It encourages all manners of evil at home. Couples are too secretive and close-mouthed about their sex life. They see their lawyer and talk about their problems with the law. They see their mechanic and talk about the car engine problem. They see their doctor and talk about their health but will never talk about their sex problems when they visit their counsellor, not to talk of discussing it between themselves.

  1. IN-LAWS AND EXTENDED FAMILY

Managing in-laws and extended family is very important to the success of any marriage. It is another major crisis centre in marriage.

WHAT TO DO 

Make yourself one. Stand together and don’t ever allow in-laws to come between you. You see, third parties can never come to destroy your marriage unless one or both of you permit them.

 

  1. WORK

Work and career is another cause of the crisis in most marriages. Learning how to balance work and healthy family life is a way to enjoy marriage.

 

WHAT TO DO 

Talk about your work, business and career. Talk about areas where money is coming in for you and how to make it stronger. Talk about work-life balance. This is very important to get the best of finance in your home without hurting your marriage.

 

  1. PARENTING

Agreeing on how to raise children could be very difficult for most modern couples. Learning how to agree in this area will help your marriage greatly.

WHAT TO DO 

Sit down with your spouse to talk about how you were raised, what you hated growing up, what you want to see in your children, your parenting styles, expectations from your spouse about raising your children.

 

Then plan to work together on raising proper children. Your children should bring you together, not separate you.

  1. OUTLOOK

Managing dressings, outlooks and agreeing on them is very important and a key to a successful marriage.

WHAT TO DO 

Talk about your expectations about the outlook of your spouse. How you expect a wife or husband to look. Talk deeply about these and make a decision together.

 

  1. HOUSE CHORES

Doing house chores, taking out the trash, cleaning and cooking can become a problem if it is not handled wisely.

WHAT TO DO 

Don’t wait until you start to fight about this. Talk about it. What do you think are the roles of husbands and wives in marriage? What do you expect your spouse to do and not to do in your house? Decide who does what and make a decision together