How To Reset Your Spiritual-life For a Solid Marriage
-By Bisi Adewale
Kenneth and Kate met at campus fellowship where they both served as leaders. While Kenneth was the Prayer band coordinator, Kate was the Bible study coordinator. They were both vibrant for the Lord. How To Reset Your Spiritual-life For a Solid Marriage
They were posted to the same State for their National Service and that got them closer. A very deep relationship eventually blossomed between them which culminated in their wedding two years after their National Service. They started well- deeply in love, affection and on fire for the Lord.
Three years into their marriage, Kenneth got promoted in the office; with higher responsibilities which most of the time takes him away from church every Sunday. It started slowly and gradually became a permanent thing since it is financially rewarding for him. Anytime he goes to work on Saturday or Sunday, he gets three times his normal daily pay as bonus. He enjoyed this as more money was really coming in. His bank account was flourishing but his spiritual life was dying. How To Reset Your Spiritual-life For a Solid Marriage
Little things soon became big issues in their marriage with misunderstandings, bickering, malice and bitterness becoming the order of the day. With time, they could go on for many days without talking to each other over a very little misunderstanding.How To Reset Your Spiritual-life For a Solid Marriage
As Kenneth got farther from the Lord he became more difficult at home and his marriage became a battle field. What broke the camel’s back was the day he raised his hand to beat his wife out of anger and the wife reported the case to their Mentor and counselor.
He was the one that rightly traced the problem in their marriage to the mistake Kenneth made by turning his back from the Lord. Kenneth wept seriously that night and decided to reconcile with the Lord. His response was drastic; he resigned his appointment with his company to take a job that paid less but gave him time with God and his family and the result was instant. Love was restored and joy returned to his home and they both learnt their lessons-never go far from the Manufacturer of marriage. How To Reset Your Spiritual-life For a Solid Marriage
One hidden pillar of a great marriage is having a strong spiritual life. Though not likely to be mentioned as one thing that makes marriage work, it is actually the real thing. When a couple is living in the full light of Christ- living only to please the Lord, they will only need little more effort to have the exceptional marriage they dreamed of. How To Reset Your Spiritual-life For a Solid Marriage
On the contrary, when a couple live to please self- living a carnal life and operating only from the flesh, though they may claim to be Christians, their marriage will not be different from that of an unbeliever.
One great gift you can give to your marriage to make it great and solid is to manage your spiritual life rightly in such way that will make you to be in tune with the lord, enable you live daily for him and continually abide in Him.
I will be discussing here about how to manage your spiritual life rightly thereby affecting your relationship with others positively:
REGULAR PRAYER LIFE
Your prayer life is the barometer of your spiritual life. If you can’t pray, you can’t be in tune with Christ. Regular prayer makes your spiritual life hot and your family life better (Mathew 7:7)
REGULAR FASTING: Don’t just pray, add fasting it to it at least once a week. This will get you closer to God.
REGULAR STUDY OF THE WORD OF GOD (Joshua 1:8)
Regular study of the word of God is the best way to nurture your spiritual life. It is like milk to a new born, like water to a dry land and like oxygen to the human body. The farther you are from the word of God, the easier it is for you to have dysfunctional habits and character that will hurt your marriage.
A.W Tozer said “Go to church once a week and nobody pays attention. Worship God seven days a week and you become strange being”
Continuous fellowship is a key to spiritual growth and it helps to sustain marriage and family life. So don’t fail to attend Church regularly.
Ecclesiastes 10:10 KJV
If the iron be blunt, and he do not whet the edge, then must he put to more strength: but wisdom is profitable to direct.
Periodic retreat is another way to sharpen your spiritual life. Petrol tanker that supply fuel to other people itself have to get off the road to refuel. Occasional withdrawal to be with the Lord is a key to hot and blossoming spiritual life
This should be personal, as a couple or for the whole family going on retreat to seek the face of God and enjoy his presence
Couples that pray together is said to stay together. Learn to pray together regularly.
There are many benefits of praying together regularly some of which are:
Partners who pray together are more willing to forgive their partner for a transgression.
Prayer protects marriage partners from risk factors like drinking, viewing pornography and excessive buying habits.
Prayer decreases infidelity.
Prayer helps couples count their blessings.
Couples who pray together are more likely to have common goals.
Couples who pray together are more likely to regulate their emotions or not get angry.
Couples who pray together report feeling as though they have a 24/7 social support system.
Don’t just pray together as a couple alone, pray together as a Family. Family altar is a very good way to make your family stronger, bigger and better.
It also helps you to train your children how to pray and make them have faith in God through prayer. (Joshua 24:15)
Quiet time is very essential if you want to live a vibrant Christian life. Quiet time or devotion time, refers to our daily appointment with God when we shut out as much outside interference as possible. During our quiet time, we may sing praise songs, pray, read Scripture or daily devotionals, meditate on God’s Word, or simply be still and listen.
Managing your spiritual life rightly will help you build a solid marriage and have quality family lives. Please don’t joke about your spiritual life.
Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on firstname.lastname@example.org, 08068312004, Whatsaap 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog: www.bisiadewale.com, facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale.Twitter @bisiadewale