9 Ways To Enjoyable Marriage
-By Bisi Adewale
You can be in your marriage and enjoy it forever, you can be lovers forever in your marriage, all you need is skill to be a great friend, a good partner and skill to be lover boys and girls no matter the age of your marriage. 9 Ways To Enjoyable Marriage 9 Ways To Enjoyable Marriage 9 Ways To Enjoyable Marriage 9 Ways To Enjoyable Marriage
1. ACCEPTANCE: In the lives of two love birds, acceptance is a key factor. You can’t love someone you did not accept. To live together forever as lovers, you must accept your spouse’s stature, height, complexion, facial look and everything about him/her. Begin to see your spouse as someone having the best height, set of teeth, complexion, tummy, qualification, hair, best face and be proud of his/her profession. Song of Solomon 4: 10
2.FORGIVENESS: Marriage cannot last If forgiveness is not part of it. In marriage, you and your spouse will offend each other but what will help to stay married is your ability to forgive. No matter who you marry, you will definitely offend one another. Make up your mind to forgive, be generous with forgiveness and your marriage will last. Colossians 3: 13
3.DEVELOP TEAM MINDEDNESS: Successful couples are not extraordinary people; they are people with team spirit. Marriage doesn’t work with solo mindedness, its work with team mindedness. Do away with your solo thoughts, eating, dressing, purchases, sleeping and self centeredness. Be a team player. Talk, walk, play, dress, sleep, build and invest as a team. Team spirit will insure your marriage against satanic, in-laws and third party encroachment. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 9 Ways To Enjoyable Marriage 9 Ways To Enjoyable Marriage
4.EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION: Couples communicate, great lovers communicate effectively. Effective communication is the fuel that keeps lovers going. Effective communication involves better understanding, choice of words, right timing, sincerity, truthfulness, openness and continuous. Let there be no dark room in your union, communicate effectively. Colossians 4:6 9 Ways To Enjoyable Marriage
5.DEWORM YOURSELF OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS: Though, you plan to live together as soul mates but may end up living together like cat and rat if you don’t deal with your negative emotions. Deworm yourself of negative emotions like: excessive demonstration of anger, retaliation, vengeance, malicious statements and attitudes, negative thought and interpretations, unfriendliness and negative statements. These negative emotions can destroy any marriage if left unchecked. Seek for help, go for counsel on how to overcome them and a copy of my book: YOUR CHARACTER IS YOUR MARRIAGE. Ephesians 4:31
6.TOGETHERNESS: Togetherness means that you and your spouse have been joined together to form a single entity. You can’t arrive here accidentally, you have to work it out by lots of coordinated activities like: eating together, sleeping on the same bed in the same room, putting on the same clothes, praying together, going to church together, playing ,strolling, building your house together ,and among others. You can become inseparable through togetherness lifestyle. Colossians 3:14
7.PRAYER IS THE KEY: Prayer play a strategic role in the making of a successful home. Many forces may militate against your marriage; you will need prayers to stop them. Create time to pray together for your love life, attitude, emotions, unity, pregnancy and delivery, your job, ministry, children and many more.
For more on family prayers, get copies of my books: My family must prosper, My husband must prosper, Parenting by fire and My children must prosper. Ephesians 5: 16
8.PLAYFULNESS: Marriage is different from mortuary; don’t treat your own as one. Put on your childhood instinct; play with your spouse and children. Don’t let your home wear a gloomy look like a mortuary. Playing together will keep you closely knitted. Song of Solomon 7: 11
9. SEXUAL FULFILLMENT: In a successful marriage, sexual fulfillment is not negotiable. Give quality sex a chance in your marriage, avoid sexual denial and don’t use sex as a weapon or trade by barter. To get to the level of sexual fulfillment, there must be sexual communication. Ask your spouse: how can I satisfy you sexually and be prepared to improve. Make up your mind to satisfy the sexual desire of your spouse. 1 Corithians 7: 5.
Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on firstname.lastname@example.org, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog: www.bisiadewale.com, Website:www.familybooster.com facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale