It has been seen in many homes that men tend to lead according to how heavy their pockets are and a lot of husbands believe the only way to get their wives to respect them is by how fat their bank accounts are. The erroneous believe is that a woman will love you if only you can spend on her- I want to tell you that even from the attributes of love enunciated in 1st Corinthians 13, there is no where it is written “Love is materialistic”. If it were so, even Jesus the true love Himself wouldn’t have offered to die for our sins safe He got in return something of monetary value.
This misconception has turned a lot of men to a mean man living a frustrated lives instead of a man of means for and to their families.
A mean man is full of ego, seeking his ways, doesn’t listen to advice believing he is wise in his own ways and because they look so much into their pockets to lead their families, they tend to live a frustrated lives because they believe nothing is working so the wife is disrespecting them in turn they transfer aggression. They are draconian and autocratic demanding respect by force. They leave the main function of leading the family but are rather bossy and domineering. A Mean Man is a dictator.
But a man of means is a loving, prudent and humble man who looks beyond what money can get to make sure his family is satisfied. He leads with the fear of God, seeks his wife’s opinion on matters and he is not intimidated by anything. He understands what a happy family entails so protects his home. The well-being of the family is important. He is a real man and so commands respect.
A MAN OF MEANS AND A MEAN MAN
Though a man is meant to provide for his household but if the woman has to do it because of the situation in the home, the man shouldn’t feel less of who he is or intimidated. With understanding they can push through successfully and no third party will know how they are fairing in their home. The most important thing in marriage is nakedness(openness) without any secret. Once this is achieved as couples, you live a better life with understanding that no matter who is earning more you are still one flesh so it is still the same purse. A MAN OF MEANS AND A MEAN MAN
As a man, it is my prayer that the Lord will increase you on all sides and may He help you to know your God-given responsibility to your family.
ARE YOU A MAN OF MEANS OR A MEAN MAN?
Bisi Oludare has a passion and ministry in the area of family life. She is a graduate of the First Premier Marriage Institute – The College of Marital Success where she obtained a Postgraduate Certificate as a qualified Chartered Counselor. She is a graduate of the School of Disciples and also attended the Word of Faith Bible Institute. She is a graduate of Biochemistry from LAUTECH and also holds a Masters Degree in Pharmacology from UNILAG but called to build homes through the power in the word of God.