By Bisi Oludare
There is nothing that destroys a marriage than using the singular word instead of the plural. Once two has become one, there must be change in everything including your speech.
I Was Passing Somewhere Sometimes Back And I Saw This Caption In Front Of One Hospital, “IF WE CAN REPLACE I, EVEN ILLNESS BECOMES WELLNESS”
After Seeing It I Couldn’t Help But Ponder On It And The First Thing That Came To My Mind Was Issues Plaguing The Union Called MARRIAGE.
If Only Individual Can Have The Real Understanding Of What Marriage Means Before Entering Into It.
If Only Each Can Be Selfless And Do More Of Sacrificial Service With The Understanding That It Is A Union Of Two People Becoming One(We) Flesh. That One Flesh Understanding Makes Marriage A ‘WE’ Union And Not ‘ME Or I” Union.
Marriage And Family Problems Outnumber All Other Counselling Problems Combined And I Have Seen That It Is So Because There Was No Solid Foundation For Both Or One Of The People Involved In The Union. They Have Always Seen Marriage As ‘Give And Take’, ’50/50′, ‘Necessary Evil’, ‘It’s For Child Making’ & ‘An Opportunity To Have A Woman That Will Cook For You And A Man That Will Be Your ATM’.
Thinking Marriage Is For Legitimised Sex Is Having A Wrong Idea Of The Real Thing. These Are All Misconceptions Of The Real Thing God Created And Until You Have The Right Understanding, Nothing Will Change.
“MARRIAGE IS AN ACT OF LOVE IN WHICH ONE PERSON VOWS TO MEET ANOTHER’S NEED FOR LIFE, WITHOUT EXPECTING TO GET ANYTHING IN RETURN. IT COMMITS ONE TO GIVING NOT GETTING.”-Jay E. Adams
The Basic Obligation Of Marriage Is To Please God By Rightly Pleasing Your Spouse. The Question In Your Heart Must Always Be How Can I Please God And My Mate? Not How Can I Please Myself.
If You Can Only Seek To Please God, Believe Me, Pleasing Your Spouse Will Be Very Easy.
It Helps You To Be A Great Companion With No Selfish Reason(s).
The Truth Is, Once Selfishness And Self Centredness Is Taken Out Of Our lives, Then There Will Be Great Success In Averting The Challenges Plaguing The Marriage Institution.
If You Seek To Use More Of ‘WE’ ‘US’ ‘OUR’ Than ‘I’ ‘ME’ ‘MINE’, Then The Word ‘Illness’ In Your Marriage Can Be Easily Replaced With ‘WEllness’.
Bisi Oludare has a passion and ministry in the area of family life. She is a graduate of the First Premier Marriage Institute – The College of Marital Success where she obtained a Postgraduate Certificate as a qualified Chartered Counselor. She is a graduate of the School of Disciples and also attended the Word of Faith Bible Institute. She is a graduate of Biochemistry from LAUTECH and also holds a Masters Degree in Pharmacology from UNILAG but called to build homes through the power in the word of God.
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