HOW NOT TO MARRY UNDER PRESSURE

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HOW NOT TO MARRY UNDER PRESSURE
HOW NOT TO MARRY UNDER PRESSURE

HOW NOT TO MARRY UNDER PRESSURE

HOW NOT TO MARRY UNDER PRESSURE

By Bisi Oludare

HOW NOT TO MARRY UNDER PRESSURE
HOW NOT TO MARRY UNDER PRESSURE

Marriage is an honourable thing and so shouldn’t be entered into under pressure like one confused person that doesn’t know what to do with his/her life. There is nothing called pressure if you don’t out yourself under it or allow yourself to be pushed like a baby into what you don’t feel ready for.

There are a lot of reasons singles especially ladies give to succumb to the pressure that leads them to marry someone they know their union will not last because the red flags were very clear staring them in the face but because of what people are saying, they give in. Fine, you are getting old and age is no more on your side but are you on the side of the AGE in marriAGE? What have you achieved in life, what’s your Growth process like and What about Experience? Consider those ‘AGE’’ in marriAGE before you conclude age is more on your side. Here are some of the things you can do to prevent marrying under pressure;

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  1. Don’t glorify your biological AGE but rather magnify what you have achieved in life, how you are growing in line with it and your experience. How well ca you manage people and situations?
  2. Don’t look for people’s pity; this will get them to say anything they feel like saying to you. Don’t always look as if you need urgent help because your situation is bad. Don’t brood over the situation
  3. Look your best, the fact that you are over 30 years of age is not the reason why you must look and dress shabbily. Looks your best and you won’t get people to even preach that message you don’t want to hear to you
  4. Discover your purpose, walk and work in line with it. When you are doing something profitable with your life and you don’t have time for cheap talk, no one will pressurize you. Even if they do, because you are busy you won’t have time and then you will be happy with yourself because you will know that since you are in the place of your God-given assignment the best man or woman will locate you
  5. It is no more news all your mates are married with children, but can I tell you this; no one can marry your spouse. What God has for you, if you don’t go outside of His plan, it is for you and will definitely come to pass at the right time.
  6. Whenever the issue of marriage is raised with you, don’t look like you have been brooding about it, just smile as they talk and give them a positive response. Even if it is your married friends saying it because it’s now an in thing; once your friends feel they are no more single even if they are not enjoying the marriage, they become a preacher that come around to make you feel bad. Don’t be moved by their husbands buying big cars for them or their traveling now because he may as well be giving them great beating or abusing them in other ways.
  7. Above all, know who you are though single and know you are a work in progress who desires an excellent marriage with a happy home. So, whenever they come with their news, be consoled by what you believe and know that very soon, this phase of your life will pass.
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These are helpful tips that can prevent you from thinking or even crying when people come to pressurize you. Remember where you are going and with that in mind, don’t allow pressure from any quarter to affect you.

 

Bisi Oludare has a passion and ministry in the area of family life. She is a graduate of the First Premier Marriage Institute – The College of Marital Success where she obtained a Postgraduate Certificate as a qualified Chartered Counselor. She is a graduate of the School of Disciples and also attended the Word of Faith Bible Institute. She is a graduate of Biochemistry from LAUTECH and also holds a Masters Degree in Pharmacology from UNILAG but called to build homes through the power in the word of God.

E-mail: abbeylily@yahoo.com

Twitter: @bisioludare

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HOW NOT TO MARRY UNDER PRESSURE

HOW NOT TO MARRY UNDER PRESSURE