How to break nagging habit

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How to break nagging habit

-By Bisi Adewale

HTo nag means to complain, murmur, condemn or criticize continually. It also means to be continually troublesome. How to break nagging habit How to break nagging habit

Let no corrupt communication proceeds out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers  (Ephesians 4:29).

 Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man (Colossians 4:6).

  • Know that it is not a good habit.
  • Know that you can destroy your marriage if you continue with that kind of habit (Proverbs 21:19). How to break nagging habit How to break nagging habit
  • Learn to make your request clear. How to break nagging habit
  • If your request is not attended to the first time you ask, sit down with your spouse to discuss and talk it out so that both of you may agree on it.
  • Always remember that the first asking is a REQUEST second, a REMINDER (may be your spouse forgets), and third, a How to break nagging habit
  • If your request and reminder do not work, take it to God in prayer; nagging does not work, it will only make things difficult (Proverbs 21:9).
  • Remember that nagging will make your spouse looks stupid, childish and immature.
  • Nagging does look like criticism in disguise and will make your spouse defensive.
  • Remember that nagging is disrespectful.
  • Don’t blame, demean, attack, criticise or try to manipulate your spouse.


Instead of nagging, do the following:

  • Pray about the issue, committing the heart of your spouse into the hand of God.
  • Don’t insist things must be done in your own way and the time you want it.
  • Be patience with your spouse.
  • Share your feelings positively (Proverbs 21:1).
  • Speak with the right tone.
  • Don’t make ultimatum or threat.
  • Read books about effective communication in marriage.
  • Speak at the right time and place.
  • Speak in the right way.
  • Avoid using phrases like “you always”, “you never”, “you should”.
  • Say “would you”, “will you”, “can you”, “please do”.
  • Use appreciation route, thanking your spouse for what he did in the past before making new requests; it always yields results.
  • Speak like a friend, not like a commander.
  • Speak with wisdom (Proverbs 31:26).
  • Give room for playfulness.
  • Build friendship in your marriage. It is easier to have your way with your friend than with your rival.
  • Don’t just talk to your spouse, learn to communicate with him effectively and be patient.

Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog:,