5 Hidden Thoughts Of Marriage

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How To Make Your Husband Know That You Are Proud Of Him

5 Hidden Thoughts Of Marriage

By Bisi Adewale

There are five major thoughts about marriage worldwide.Knowing them will help you to identify where your marriage belong in order to take the right step.

  1. Error Partnership Thinking. This will definitely lead to a battlefield marriage. It is driven by some unwholesome thoughts a partner has about marriage on one hand and, on the other about the other partner. 5 Hidden Thoughts Of Marriage 5 Hidden Thoughts Of Marriage 5 Hidden Thoughts Of Marriage 5 Hidden Thoughts Of Marriage

‘’I married wrongly; I shouldn’t have married this man or woman.”

“You are wicked.”

“This marriage is a mistake.”

“You are a minus in my life.”

“This marriage cannot work.”

“You are a witch.”

“My partner is unfaithful.”

“How I wish I had married that other person.”

“The husband/wife of so and so is better than mine.”

“The husband/wife of so and so is more beautiful or handsome than mine.”

“My spouse does not love me.” 5 Hidden Thoughts Of Marriage

“I cannot forgive him/her.”

“It is fire for fire.” 5 Hidden Thoughts Of Marriage

 

  1. Cheating Partnership Thinking. This kind of thinking will also give birth to a battlefield or poor marriage. It involves the following thoughts:
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“I am giving more than I am receiving in this marriage.”

“My spouse is not giving me enough attention.”

“My husband is not showing me enough love.”

“My wife is not giving me enough respect.”

“My husband is not providing enough for me.”

“How I wish I had married somebody who would have appreciated me better.”

“My spouse is cheating on me.”

“All she knows is money; she is good for nothing.”

  1. Negative Privilege Thinking. This often leads to a poor marriage, making the union a difficulty one. A partner entertains these thoughts about the other partner:

“You are privileged to have married me.”

“If not for me, there wouldn’t have been you.”

“I am doing more for you.”

“I made you.”

“If not for me, your life….”

“I took you from nobody and made you somebody.”

“You owe me a lot.”

“You should be thanking me forever.”

Thoughts like these will nurture pride and prompt a partner to make unreasonable demands on the other partner, making the marriage difficult.

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  1. Equal Privilege Thinking. This will lead to a good marriage. It is 50/50, middle-way matrimony or trade by barter home. It involves the following thought:

“I am privileged to marry you, but you are privileged to marry me.”

“We are privileged to marry each other.”

“I made you, you made me.”

“We are both gaining from each other.”

This kind of thought may not be there in your marriage initially. But, at a stage you may start looking forward to having your partner serve you before you can do the same, thereby making it a marriage pushed by reciprocity. If the partner is not able to serve you, it generates anger and misunderstandings. That is the major reason many marriages have problems when one of the partners loses his job or is unable to work.

 

  1. Positive Privilege Thinking. This will lead to a great marriage. It involves the following thoughts:

“Thank God I married you.”

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“You are a gift from God to me.”

“I’m privileged to be married you.”

“What can I do without you?”

“You are a plus in my life.”

“I am gaining more in this marriage.”

“I am enjoying myself in this marriage.”

“My husband loves me.”

“My wife respects and honours me.”

“Thank you for marrying me.”

“If not for you in my life….”

“Thank you for everything.”

“I married the right man or woman.”

 

Your thoughts affect the health of your marriage. If you think right, you will get it right. Nobody can grow higher than his thoughts. Take good care of your thought and it will take good care of your marriage and destiny.

Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him onfamilybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, Whatsaap 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog:  www.bisiadewale.com, facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale.Twitter @bisiadewale