Ten Ways To Improve Financial Intimacy In Marriage – Part 2

How To Fix Your Marriage Problem Quickly
How To Fix Your Marriage Problem Quickly

Ten Ways To Improve Financial Intimacy In Marriage  – Part 2

Ten Ways To Improve Financial Intimacy In Marriage  – Part 2
Financial Intimacy In Marriage
  1. Define Goals
    Goal setting is a form of practical dreaming – and who doesn’t like to dream about what the future could be? This goal setting is not just about finances, but it is about all things in life. Where do you want to be? What do you want to be doing? What do you want people to say about your life accomplishments? Goal setting is where a husband and wife look at each other and say, “Where do we want to be in 5 years? In 10 years? In 15 years?” Husband and wife then look at the financial implications of those goals they have jointly set. If a husband and a wife have separate goals it will be nearly impossible to have financial intimacy in marriage.

Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand. (Matthew12:25 NIV)

  1. Combine it
    Since there is a union between husband and wife it is essential that couples combine bank accounts and all other financial items. It is difficult, but possible, to function financially with separate bank accounts. However, what do you seek for in your marriage? To ‘function’ or to thrive? I do not believe a marriage can thrive until there is intimacy on all levels. This involves combining all financial resources.
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It doesn’t matter who earns it. Some couples think that the one who earns the money spends the money or dictates how it ought to be spent. Instead, you should respect your unique contributions to the home. Our family has made the decision that my wife will stay home and raise our children. She is well educated and easily marketable in the professional world, but we made a choice, and we each make a contribution to the decisions we made.

The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:4 NIV) *

* While this passage speaks of the physical relationship between husband and wife the principle of joint ownership applies. What previously belonged to the wife/husband (his and her body) is now shared with the spouse as he is now a joint-owner of his/her body.

  1. Distribute Responsibilities:
    Money management takes time, energy, knowledge, and wisdom. One of the common complaints about the modern family is the burden of so many responsibilities and commitments. This makes its way into the home as couples are forced to decide who will take care of the different tasks related to personal finances.
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Here is what I suggest

Take out a blank piece of paper (or open a Word document on your computer) and list all of the the jobs related to personal finances. This list might include things like balancing the check book, transferring funds, paying bills, researching retirement options, making investment decisions …
Make a copy of that list. Both spouses should write on of the following phrases by each tasks: (a) I enjoy doing that, (b) I am willing to do that, (c) Blahh. Please don’t make me do that.
Compare your lists. Assign responsibilities first according to the task you each enjoy. Next, assign responsibilities by rotating every other task in the “willing to do that” list. Then finally, if both of you are “blahh” for the same task, consider (a) outsourcing it if possible, (b) splitting the responsibility 50/50 , or (c) assigning the task to one partner and the other will assume another household responsibility that you both rate as ‘blahh’.
Proverbs 31:10-31 outlines the responsibilities assumed by the wife of noble character.

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Ten Ways To Improve Financial Intimacy In Marriage  – Part 2

Ten Ways To Improve Financial Intimacy In Marriage  – Part 2